Tuesday, May 19, 2009
As humans, we often focus on those who are negative or toxic leaving it difficult to appreciate those who are positive and healthy. Seeking out individuals with healthy, positive traits, however, may naturally help us to stay clear (or at least clearer) of those who are toxic, who zap our energy or who make us feel badly. Further, the more we can surround ourselves with those who are positive and healthy, the more we may model those positive behaviors.
If you really think about it, once in awhile you come across a person who knocks you off your socks … legitimately. Maybe they have the best outlook on life, maybe they’re really wealthy but you would never know it, maybe they make you feel special. There’s a good chance that many of these people possess a few, if not all of the traits mentioned below. (Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I’d list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find in others.)
1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time to be interested in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common. People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give. Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated, and special, while those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.
2. Tolerance: People who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals. All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies. After all, these differences make the world go round. Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness, and in the health of our relationships.
3. Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic, and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial. Feeling comfortable in your skin and being true to yourself is one of the most beautiful traits a person possess. To have a real relationship with someone requires honesty. It requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular. It means having the strength to tell it like it is and not being afraid to face the consequences for doing so. It means loving people for who they really are, deep down, and not for what they appear to be.
4. Sensitivity: So often, we’re so focused on what’s important to us that we can forget about those around us. Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative, and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued, and respected. Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.
5. Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find, especially in a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck. (Bernie Madoff, can you hear me?) They expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy’s dad and any other reality TV mongers). They do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods). Integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.
6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented, or drop-dead gorgeous, there’s something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time. Humility in those who possess extraordinary traits makes others feel special, too.
posted by JEI @ JEIZONE at 17:15 | 
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