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Why you should not accept a Counter Offer

2011-11-21T09:59:00.002+08:00

As a professional recruiter I see people get all the way to "Offer Stage" with companies only to turn the offer down. This is BAD, BAD, BAD practice for many reasons and I am a firm believer that it is 100% avoidable when working with a great recruiter!

I believe that there are many reasons that people ultimately give for turning down an offer after one has been made, but the most popular is the "Counter Offer". The top 2 most common forms of the counter offer are the "Financial Raise" counter and the "Emotional" counter offer from the current employer at the resignation stage. Below I'll discuss 10 very important reasons why accepting a counter offer is a bad idea as well as a more professional process you can use to avoid turning down offers.Top 10 Reasons Not to Accept a Counter Offer:

1. After resigning, you have made your employer aware that you were looking and unhappy. Your loyalty will now be in question

2. When promotion/raise time comes around, your employer will remember who is loyal and who is not.

3. When making difficult decisions about cut-backs, the company may begin with those that are deemed less loyal.

4. Accepting a Counter-Offer is an insult to your intelligence and a blow to your personal pride, to simply be bought at the last minute.

5. Where was the extra money for a counter-offer at during your last performance review? Most companies have strict wage/salary guidelines and may be simply giving your next raise early or buying time to hire someone in your place.

6. The same circumstances that now cause you to consider making a change almost always reoccur within the next 6-12 months.

7. Statistics show that if you accept a counter-offer, the probability of voluntarily leaving in 6 months or being let go within 1 year are extremely high.

8. Once the word gets out, the relationship you now enjoy with co-workers will never be the same. You lose personal satisfaction of the peer group acceptance.

9. What type of company do you want to work for if you have to threaten to resign before they give you what you are worth?

10. Accepting counter-offers after already accepting another position burns bridges with other companies, your recruiter, and ultimately shows all 3 parties that you can be bought.

Keep in mind that the Emotional Counter Offer is a calculated apporach to guilting you into staying with the company. They will say something like, "How can you leave us after all that we have done to help you in your career?" "We are a family and are such good friends, it's a shame to see you leave us under these circumstances."

When working with a great recruiter, I'm a firm believer that the process can and should run smoothly and a job seeker can get a great offer that is acceptable with less stress on the working relationship with the new client. I believe the process should work something like this and it is better for all parties involved.

Ideal Recruiting Process through Offer Stage & Acceptance:

1. Speak openly and honestly with recruiter about your motivation for making a move and seeking a new opportunity. This should be done after going to your current employer to discuss these issues ($$$, Responsibility, Travel, Career Advancement, et.). If these issues can not be resolved at this stage, they probably aren't resolveable at Counter Offer Stage.

2. Only interview on opportunities that meet your most important "motivation points for making a move". For Example, only interview on roles that give you a 10% Raise and more career advancement opportunities with a better-known company in your industry. Someone elses motivating points may be reducing travel to spend more time with family and they'll reduce compensation expectation to achieve this major goal.

3. Speak openly with recruiter about your current compensation plan and what kind of offer you are willing to accept IF the opportunity meets your other key motivating points. Be honest and don't change your mind or you'll lose credibility with the recruiter for future opportunities.

4. Inform the recruiter of other opportunities you are looking at and the Pro's & Con's to those roles versus the one your interviewing with that recruiter. What stage are you with other opportunities.

5. After interviewing, have a detailed interview de-brief with the recruiter. Now is the time to pull out of the process if the opportunity is not right for you after having all your questions answered. If you are excited about the opportunity, reitterate that you are excited, that you "Will take an offer of $___ Dollars if it is offered to you" Everything should be consistent with your dialogue prior to interviewing.

6. The only reason for turning down an offer at this point is if the company low-balls you. Shame on them if the recruiter had been honest all along about your compensation requirements. They shouldn't interview you and waste your time.

7. If you accept an offer and commit to starting on a certain date and later decline the offer you have already accepted, SHAME on you. This is a terrible practice and you will have burned a bridge with that company forever as well as burning a bridge with a great recruiter. You'll lose out on future opportunities and everyone associated with you in this process will have a bad taste in their mouth.

I hope that some of this dialoge hits home because these are some of the most frustrating issues to handle as a recruiter. I think they are all avoidable and can positively impact your career when handled in the right manner. These are principles to live by, like being honest and sticking to your word, and knowing thy self!

Good Luck...!!!

Why Do So Many Marriages End in Divorce?

2011-11-01T23:23:00.000+08:00

Why Do So Many Marriages End in Divorce?

When a couple get married they intend it to be 'happy ever after'. I don't believe anyone goes into marriage intending to get divorced. However, I do think there arefive major reasons why so many marriages end up in the divorce courts.

1. Selfishness: quite simply, any relationship is one of give and take. In a marriage if both partners want what is best for their partner over and above what they want for themselves then there won't be bitter arguments and conflict. It's when we insist on having our own way that problems arise.

2. Lack of Communication: when something is bothering you in your marriage then clamming up and shutting the other person out will cause that concern to fester and grow. Your imagination might run completely wild until you've worked yourself up into an angry accusing state - which will certainly lead to more arguments. If you talk about your concerns before they become massive, and if you can talk openly and honestly with each other, then most problems can be sorted out quite amicably.

3. Lack of shared values and goals: if you got married in the heat of romance and lust then you are unlikely to have really explored each other's values and goals. Once the initial honeymoon period is over reality kicks in. And the differences can be quite fundamental, perhaps you want children and your spouse doesn't, or vice versa. If you want different things from your marriage then you are likely to be disappointed and disappointing. It's vital to discuss these sorts of issues before you decide to get married. Is this really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? While a broken engagement hurts it is far better than the hurt, acrimony and unpleasantness that could be caused by a divorce several years down the track.

4. Divorce is seen as an 'easy' answer: some people would say that divorce is far too easy these days. While it might be true that one can get divorced easily, the emotional turmoil, feelings of failure and detrimental effects on the children, make divorce anything but 'easy'.

5. Lack of love : Love plays crucial role in keeping the marriage taking the maturity process. After marriage, many people taking love for granted. Love needs to be told in many forms, it requires an art of expression. A small gift gives assurance, it speaks louder that mere words. Unlock the love in you, it's the more powerful tool in a marriage.

Life will present challenges to every marriage at some time or another. This could be interfering in-laws, a sickly child or worse. However, if you have started out with shared values and goals; if you keep the communication channels open whatever happens; and if you unselfishly consider the other person first, then you will stay married and your marriage bond will have been strengthened by the challenges you have faced together.

Rebuilding after Divorce

2011-10-31T07:29:00.000+08:00

Divorce is not easy. In fact the majority of the time it is extremely painful. It can take a long time to recover from the damage of divorce. When a divorce occurs it is like a death in the family. So many emotions can rise to the surface. For example: anger, frustration, fear, sorrow, anguish, bitterness, hatred, and regret are just a few of the emotions that come up during and after a divorce. The person being divorced starts questioning their value as a person and as a mate. They start thinking and saying "If only I had done this..." or "I should have done this ..." or "I am not lovable" or "I'll never be happy" or "I'll always be alone".
Divorce can destroy self-esteem. Depression can sneak into the mind without knowing what is happening. The parties involved in divorce become full of guilt. They begin to question their sanity.
Understand that all of the feelings and emotions that surface are normal. Accept them instead of denying that they exist. Work through each emotion. You are not a bad person for thinking or feeling a certain way.
You are just human.
Divorce is never easy for the people involved. It can have long-term affects on any new relationships. Divorce can be a learning experience that makes you stronger and healthier emotionally. It all depends on your attitude and how you act after a divorce. Anger, sadness, depression blame, and frightened about the future are common reactions to divorce. Feelings of insecurity, betrayal, low self-esteem and disconnection can linger long after a divorce. You could go through life blaming other's for your unhappiness or you could choose to live and learn from this chapter in your life and create a new beginning. The choice is yours.

Here are some suggestions for people in the process of divorce and for those already divorced:

1. Give yourself permission to feel your feelings. Deal with the feelings of anger and sadness. You have a right to your own feelings. Let them out. Write about the, talk about the, scream and cry about them. Release your feelings. Take a long bath or shower and then stay in your robe all day and just be with your feelings. You have to feel to heal.

2. Understand that it takes a lot of time to recover from divorce. Healing does not happen overnight. Don't let friends or family rush you through the process. Go about your healing in your own way and at your own pace. Don't feel guilty about mourning your loss.

3. Read as much self-help material that you can. Read or listen to the same self-help book at least 6 times during a 30 day period before starting a new book. It takes that much repetition before you can actually digest and learn from the information.

4. Treat yourself often to long walks in the park, massages, movies, eating out, reading a novel, window shopping, and anything else that will make you feel pampered for an hour or so. Pamper and nurture yourself as much as possible. Do some things that you put off doing while you were married. Start taking care of yourself and your needs.

5. Seek outside help from your minister or from a counselor. Reach out to others. Let others help you through your mourning process. Talk to people that can relate and empathize.

6. Be aware of how you think and feel when you are stressed. Try to anticipate how you want to react and then do the opposite. Example: If you usually talk a lot stop and try to listen instead, if you withdraw, stop and start a conversation. It takes time to develop new behaviors. Be persistent. Stop blaming yourself or others for your unhappiness. Take responsibility for your feelings.

How can you regain a positive attitude after divorce? Try the following: Focus on the positive. Look ahead and picture a happier you. Take up new hobbies and start concentrating on happy events and create a better future through your thoughts, words and deeds. See our what you think and speak article and Letting Go of a Past Relationship

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

2011-10-08T21:14:00.001+08:00

Those who are still single may learn something from here... Those who are already married may take it as a guideline to improve your marriage & relationship ...

Woman's common question. 'How do I know if I married the right person?'

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer. EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse / partner . You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies (unconventional behavior/habit).

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called 'falling' in love... Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, 'I was swept of my feet.' Think about the imagery of that __expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria (excitement) of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, 'Did I marry the right person?' And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't 'find' LASTING love. You have to 'make' it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression 'the labor of love.' Because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable... you can 'make' love.

Love in marriage is indeed a 'decision'... Not just a feeling.

Remember this always:

'God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let go.'

Love Marriage and Arrange Marriage

2011-09-08T13:10:00.001+08:00

Love Marriage and Arrange Marriage
both has their pro's and con's . Not all love marriage is a heaven and not all is hell...

Nowadays..ppl more prone to have love marriage as nowadays youngsters fall in love so quickly. Its good to have a good love relationship before considering into marriage. As Once in love...they have the world to them. Everything seems to be wonderful but at last dont forget the fact that when ur in the dream of love u tend to forget the importance of a relationship and the way to make it to last. Its important to make ur partner feel ur love strongly. GIve them enough space and make them feel comfortable with u. After marriage..the couples should not compare how they were before the marriage. This only causes problems...Some tend to think that before the marriage (that is when they were lovers)...the partners attitude was different and after marriage it changed. Comparision like this should never happen as this causes problems only.

As for arrange Marriage..u will only know ur partner well after the marriage..There will be some likes and also dislikes...but it can be talked thru..Its sometimes thrilling to find that ur partner has the same taste as u...the love that comes from arranged marriage can be shown in many ways thru hugs, cuddles, kisses and of course at night on bed as they will be having the freedom to do it but its not that all important..the most important is love that you feel, the freedom u have with ur partner and whether u feel comfortable with them r not...TRUST is very important. I have frends who after arranged marriage go thru hell. Its very Important to talk to ur partner before the marriage and if can try to be frends before marriage. As for love marriage...this is not a problem as both parties know each other well (they assume they know well ) and wont have much trouble getting along...

Love your partner and make sure u respect them and give them full trust. Even in arranged marriage..u must get to know the person well before marrying them....to ensure u and ur partner will have a happy loving life together..Its in our hands to make our marriage to be succcessful doesnt matter either its a love marriage or arranged marriage..its WE who make it Happen and by not Blaming others for not making it successful.........Its all in our hands to make a married life successful & miserable irrespective of wether its love marriage or arranged marriage. Life is not a bed of roses...

Love marriage people thinking if only they'd gone for arranged marriage & arranged marriage people thinking if only they'd loved someone before marriage could make life all the more miserable take things easy... don't close ur real eyes when in love...so that when u wake up from ur dream land u might think ur love was a real dream. to have ur dream continuing... fall in love & love the person for what he/she is & make sure u'll like him/her in reality real life.when u go for arranged marriage its almost like u were destined to be hubby & wife. so talk with each other & understand each other. no one in this earth is without flaws. every coin has its other side. take the good things & try to ignore the flaws in a way both of u can accept it guess its easy to advice or say... sure its all a matter of clicking & matter of time to adjust to each other.

In any case we've got a good tradition & a culture...love or arranged marriage... whatever be the case... relation is welcome only after marriage. we've got high moral values for which the other nation ppl envy us. though this is degrading these days...its each of our responsibility to make sure we bring glory to our good old morals & tradition.

Cheating Husband or Wife?

2011-08-08T00:50:00.003+08:00

Cheating Husband or Wife?

How to know if your spouse is cheating on you.

It's a sad fact, but this article is necessary because an ever-increasing number of people are wondering if a husband or wife is cheating. You might be wondering if your husband or wife is cheating on you or you could be concerned for a friend. In today's world, adultery is becoming common, especially with websites existing solely to bring people together for affairs. On such websites, people actually advertise themselves as wanting to have an affair because they are unhappy in their marriage or are sexual addicts. I realize that you may be in some degree of fear, frustration or sorrow as you read this article. For that, I offer my deepest sympathy. I can, however, offer the following information as a tool for you to use in determining the likelihood of whether or not a spouse is cheating. It might require some detective work on your part, but knowing if your spouse is being unfaithful to you is worth the work.

Phone Usage and Typical Patterns of Cheating Husbands and Wives

If you already think your spouse is cheating on you, you should add an item to your list of clues if you notice that your spouse turns off his/her cell phone when with you or leaves the room when taking or making calls. He/she might even become angry if you answer their cell phone. Check the cell phone bill for calls made. Often times these

calls are in the morning of the evening while your husband/wife is driving to and from work. The only good thing about a cell phone bill is that it lists all the calls made in a billing cycle. Most cheaters consider a cell phone to be a necessity because it allows them to make calls while driving and away from home, but if he or she does not have

one, you might want to buy them one just so you can track their calls.

Another detail to examine on a cell phone bill would be extremely long calls. Sometimes such calls can be for business matters, but if your spouse is in a profession that doesn't require a great deal of cell phone use, or if the cell phone use has increased for no apparent reason, you have logical reason to be suspicious.

Also take note if you receive an unusual amount of wrong number or hang up calls to your home phone and especially if you notice his or her cell phone ring immediately after someone hung up when you answered. Your spouse may also occasionally hang up suddenly when you enter the home or a room.

The Computer: An Ally and an Enemy

The computer can be a tool for a cheating spouse, but can act as a double agent in that it can serve to catch an adulterous person as well. Software exists to collect, save and report all activity on a computer. This software, called key logger software can be found

around the Internet. One piece of software that I highly recommend is called BSafe Online because of their proven track record and my own experiences with them. The software also includes pornography filters, virus protection and other valuable tools that will aid you in your investigation.

Computer Behavior of a Cheater

Cheaters will delete their history if they know how (most do). If you notice that history has been deleted when you are certain the suspect has been online, your spouse is hiding something. Another clue is if he or she demands privacy when on a computer and often closes a screen when you "accidently" walk in. This may also tell you that your spouse is viewing pornography which in my opinion is digital adultery.

If you notice that your spouse loses interest in sex after being on the computer, it could be that he or she has masturbated with an online sex partner or from viewing pornography. So if your spouse usually has a healthy and active attitude towards sex except after a lengthy computer session, the math might be laid out for you that he or she has found another outlet.

Money Clues

As marriage expert Joe Beam says, "Sin is expensive." He has also warned on his Give and Take relationship radio show that high credit card debt can be a sign of someone having an affair.

You need to look for credit card bills containing unusual expenses that may be gifts. That includes jewelry, travel, cosmetic products, perfume, florist items and lingerie. But if he's a smart cheater, he'll have lots of cash on him without good reason. You may also notice an increase in gas purchases on the credit card that add up to more miles than your husband or wife should be driving. Take note of the daily mileage so you can notice unexplained increases.

Physical Changes

It's common for a man or woman having an affair to alter his or her personal appearance to the likes of the lover. She might get a new hairstyle, visit the tanning salon, change perfume, buy large amounts of new clothes including lingerie and sexy underwear. He might join a gym, begin or increase taking Viagra without increasing lovemaking sessions with his wife, shave body hair or begin using a product to

Color his gray hair or a gel to restyle it. Though there is nothing inherently wrong with these actions, if they exist along with other clues, you may have a cheater on your hands.

Relational Changes

Suddenly your spouse seems uninterested in your relationship and has fewer conversations with you. He or she makes spontaneous plans that don't include you and give you little time to object. The cheating spouse may ask specific details about your schedule for no apparent reason.

Sex between the cheater and spouse may increase or decrease. He or she may request different kinds of sex or suggest a threesome or swinging. Often time’s cheaters do not want to share baths or sleep while embracing their spouse.

Family Time Changes

A cheating spouse often loses interest in family events that involve the children. Yet lack of family time may lead to extravagant gift purchases for the children and unusual increases in time spent with them in order to appease the cheater's guilt.

At the Office

If your spouse comes home later than usual and becomes angry when you ask the reason, there's probably a problem. Look for recent hires at work and if they are of the opposite sex, ask your spouse about them. For example, if there's a new woman at work, ask him if he thinks she's pretty. If he's says no but when you meet her she is very pretty, you may have a cheater. After all, why would he lie about her looks? The answer is that he doesn't want you be suspicious of her or his relationship with her. An innocent man would in a healthy relationship should be honest. He would say something like,

"She's pretty, but not as pretty as you."

When you get home

When you get home after the suspected cheater has been there "alone" look for the following clues to see if he or she has had an encounter with the lover:

* The bed comforter/sheets look as though more than one person has been laying on it and, perhaps, moving around.

* For men, if the toilet seat is up when you get home, but down when you left.

* The shower has been used during the day for no apparent reason (to remove perfume, sexual scents or sweat by cheater or lover).

* The tooth brush or mouthwash has been used in the middle of the day, though this is not a usual habit.

* Check the trash locations for condoms. Remember, a smart cheater might not put them in an easily visible trash can.

* The window shades in your room were open when you left, but are now closed even though it's the middle of the day.

Conclusion

You may find many of the clues in this article and yet your spouse MAY still be faithful. Nothing short of catching your spouse with the lover will prove beyond a doubt that an affair is taking place. But usually your suspicions are correct. If you have evidence that your spouse is cheating on you, don't automatically give up on your marriage. If you want to save your marriage, we can help marriages that have been hurt by infidelity. We have a proven track record and the credentials to help.

How to Give Your Boyfriend Space

2011-07-08T20:36:00.000+08:00

It's a bit of a running joke sometimes, about the man in your life needing more "space", but in reality, it's no joke at all. Any relationship in which two people behave in an overly dependent manner can feel oppressive or smothering for either party, and indicates a need for one or both people to learn to cope apart as well as together.

A healthy relationship will always benefit from giving each other space, and never more so than when you feel that your boyfriend is champing at the bit to be "released" a little more often to just be by himself or to spend time with his mates. If you're finding it challenging to let go even though the relationship's becoming a bit too much to handle, it's a sign that now more than ever, you do need to learn to give him his space. Here are some suggestions to help you.

1) Reach a decision that it's alright to give your boyfriend space.
The sooner you accept that giving one another space is normal, healthy, and indeed necessary for a flourishing relationship, the better for the both of you. If things have been reaching breakpoint in your relationship, try letting the situation go for a while. Stop wanting to control what he's doing, and stop worrying and being frustrated about what you're not getting out of the relationship. Instead, just relax in the present moment. By letting things be, they often have a way of fixing themselves on their own.

• Realize that your boyfriend is more likely to want to break up with you if you keep breathing down his neck than if you give him the space he craves.

• Don't assume the worst when he asks for space; if he still gives signs of caring about you and wanting to see you now and then, take it at face value that he really does need space. Perhaps he's stressed from a heavy workload, or snowed under with exam studies. Try to look for the actual reasons beyond yourself.

• Trust. Trust that your love will blossom with space, rather than wither. Part of this is about examining your own motives for being with him – if it's just love, you'll unearth this trust. But if it's security, money, prestige, or some other non-love reason you're with him for, now is a good time to re-examine your purpose in the relationship.

2) Ask questions to clarify what's going on. Without appearing paranoid or overly emotional, be forthright in asking your boyfriend what he sees as being given space, and how much time he's contemplating. Is he wanting a few days or weeks now, or does he want this to be a permanent arrangement, such as having every Saturday to himself? This can help to reassure you that he has sound reasons for wanting space that don't involve breaking up with you, and it gives both of you some solid ground to work out the duration or precise times you won't be turning up in his life.

• This is a good opportunity for you to also outline the space you'd like too. Don't be bratty about it; simply think of genuine reasons what you'd like, such as Friday nights free to spend with your girlfriends!

3) Sort something out amicably. At this stage, it's vital that you don't come across as needy, petulant, or terrified of losing him. Whatever you do, do not walk off in a huff or throw a fit. Both reactions are calculated to have him retreat even further into his shell and feel justified for wanting even more space! Instead, visualize yourself as a person negotiating something that is perfectly reasonable, then go ahead and negotiate it without appearing too down.

• Don't look like you need him. It's absolutely vital that you show you're not needy, clingy, or desperate for someone else to complete you. Remind yourself that you're your own strong, confident, and independent woman. You don't need him to ensure your peace and happiness. A strong and confident woman with a sense of her own purpose in life is extremely attractive to guys, so you'll be doing both of you a favor by being this way.
• Avoid begging for anything. There is no harm in asking him occasionally for help, for extra time together, and for indications of your future direction together. It becomes undesirable when you fall into asking constantly, begging him to do things with you or to spend more time with you. And it's worse if you put on a turn, cry, and generally act miserable. Just don't do it!

4) Shape up your own time. Instead of feeling mopey and clingy, see this as a great opportunity to occupy yourself with a range of things to do and friends to meet up with. Rediscover or uncover a hobby, new or old friends, and activities. Become more involved in your career direction and perhaps think about improving your chances of getting a promotion. Get some purpose back into your life that allows you to grow and exist apart from your boyfriend, and to be able to prove to him that you're capable on your own, which will reassure him more than anything else that you're not going to suffocate him.

• Get outdoors and do some fun activities. Long walks, hikes, climbing, swimming, sailing, etc., will improve your mood considerably.
• If you feel as if you've lost yourself when he asks for space, this is a good indication that you need the space as much as he does. Spend some time contemplating, reflecting, and even meditating. If you're not sure about what direction you're taking in life, or what you really care about beyond your boyfriend, use this time to do some deep thinking.
• Realize and embrace the power of showing that you have a life of your own.

5) Be patient. If you both want the relationship to succeed at a gradual pace, then love the space for the chances it provides you both. Take time to discover each other and yourselves rather than always trying to please one another or set one another off when things don't fall into place as you'd like. When you allow your boyfriend the space to think, to do the things he loves, and to be with his mates, he'll start missing you soon enough and wanting you by his side again.

6) Respect his choices and his freedom. The more respect and freedom you give your boyfriend, the more he'll come to you, because you'll be someone who doesn't make demands on him. Nobody likes demands, and guys are especially uncomfortable when they feel the pressure of romantic demands. Such pressure can push them away from people pushing the demands on them. On the other hand, if a guy can spend time with someone who loves him for who he is, and just lets him be himself with no conditions or demands placed on him, he'll absolutely love you. Love unconditionally, which simply means: set no conditions!

7) Be his best friend. Listen when he talks and don't comment until he's done talking. When you do comment, be positive and supportive. Don't criticize or judge – if you feel you need to do that, think very carefully about why you want to be with him. Be his buddy, make him feel at ease and comfortable with you. He'll soon start pouring out all of his thoughts and feelings, not just about his life and other people, but he'll soon begin to uncover his true feelings for you as well. Why? Because he feels safe and comfortable again to do so.

8) Change your own bad habits. If you have any bad habits you know he doesn't like (like whining, clinging, gossiping, etc.), seek to change them. And prove to him you are changed. He may test you, so give him time – his new trust won't come fast, so you need to be patient and consistent. Always remember, people do change once they make up their mind to do so, which means so can you!

9) Don't give your boyfriend space as a ruse just to manipulate him and then try to seek to control him again. Do it because you want to change the way you approach your relationship together and because you love him and trust that this is the right thing for your relationship at this point. When you approach the space issue with the right mindset of broadening your own life experiences and respecting his time to do the same, you'll be more confident and independent no matter what the final outcome.

10) Relax and be the girl he fell in love with. Be happy and carefree, learn to love yourself as much as you love him, and find constructive ways to share time together and apart. Once you've got the balance sorted, you'll never look back.

Five Ways to Be a Better Girlfriend

2011-06-08T21:58:00.001+08:00

How can you avoid the mistakes of past relationships? How can you maintain your sense of yourself within a new relationship? What do men really want in a partner ?

1. To avoid the mistakes of past relationships, you need to get clear on the patterns and the lessons they brought you. To help you get clear, try this exercise.

Take a piece of paper, and across the top write the names of the last three men with whom you’ve had significant romantic relationships. Underneath their name, write a list of the reasons you were attracted to them when you first met. Underneath that list, write a list of the reasons why the relationship ended. (This exercise is adapted from Hindsight by Maryanne Comaroto.) Look for similarities in the relationships to find clues about your romantic patterns.

Are you attracted to successful, flashy men who treat you with disrespect? Maybe you’re attracted to nice guys who end up boring you to tears. Whatever it is, see if you can figure out your romantic pattern. Once you see the pattern, you can figure out the lesson. The lesson is typically found when you say, “I’ll never let that happen to me again.”

Whatever “that” is for you is your lesson. If you haven’t had that epiphany yet, ask yourself this: “what do I feel when I’m first with a new partner? How can I give that same feeling to myself?”

2. Most relationships fail, or at least flounder into tedium, because the partners lose their sense of identity outside the relationship.

Women identify with who they are as a lover, wife, and mother and forget who they are as an individual. To avoid this in your next relationship, be sure to maintain excellent contact with your friends, and encourage your man to do the same. Spend time with your friends at least once a week.

When you meet his friends, look for common ground so that you’ll feel comfortable encouraging him to hang out with them. Introduce him to your friends to lessen the “either/or” dynamic that tends to happen with new romance. And be sure to make time each week for your favorite activity, even if he doesn’t share your enthusiasm. It’s absolutely fine for you to have separate interests; in fact, it’s very healthy.

3. Laugh together. Laughter is one of the very best indicators of relationship health and longevity.

Don’t be afraid to poke gentle fun at your man, and learn how to take a joke at your expense occasionally. Humor, when done right, bolsters people up. It doesn’t hurt or cut people down, so when you make fun of something, make fun of a situation rather than a character flaw.

4. Confidence is a huge turn on for men.

When a man asks, for example, where you want to go for dinner, have an opinion. I know as women we want our man to make decisions and have opinions, but I’ll let you in on a secret: They would love to have their woman take the reins once in awhile. It’s a lot of work for them to always take the lead.

The same goes for sex: guys go wild for a woman who’s willing to take the initiative once in awhile. And seriously, a little goes a long way! If you take the lead and start undressing your man, he’ll have food for his imagination for weeks to come.

5. Enthusiasm and confidence go hand in hand.

A confident, negative woman is a ball-buster. A confident, enthusiastic woman is absolutely irresistible. That’s not to say you can never have a bad day, but your ratio of positive to negative comments should be at least ten to one.

This rule will serve you well in every relationship, not just romantic ones. Men are linear thinkers. If you have enthusiasm for your job, or for a movie you just saw, they will project that out to enthusiasm for the relationship, and for sex … and they like that.

Ten Steps to Happily Ever After

2011-06-08T16:46:00.000+08:00

Do you know what all happy and healthy marriages have in common? In every one of them you will find two people committed to making each other happy. You will find a man who cherishes his wife and puts her needs above his own, and you will find a wife who respects and trusts her man. We live in very selfish times. Pop-psychology messages are everywhere in the media encouraging us to love ourselves, do right by ourselves, and generally please ourselves first. If you really want a happy marriage, don't buy into that type of self-centered thinking. Instead, try these ten time-tested techniques and experience the happiness, peace, and tranquility of a healthy marriage.

1. Make time for each other. It's so easy in our hyper-busy modern lifestyles to forget to set aside a little time to enjoy each other's company. Start a weekly tradition of setting a date for the two of you to be together doing something you both enjoy. Keep it simple. Take a nice walk together. Sip coffee together in a cozy coffeehouse. Talk to each other, reminisce, and get to know each other again.

2. Take time off from each other. Give each other space and time to work on hobbies and personal interests. When you have an interesting project to work on, you will feel more fulfilled and you will be a more interesting person.

3. Make little romantic gestures. Remember to compliment your spouse. Leave a little love note for them to find once in awhile. Celebrate the day you first met. Send flowers for no particular reason. You should continuously make little deposits in your spouse's emotional bank account. The return on your investment will be incredible.

4. Fight fair. Don't argue in front of other people. Don't insult each other or each other's families. Never threaten divorce, and never go to bed angry. Let the little things go, and don't make a big deal out of every disagreement. Before arguing, think; is this really going to matter in the long run?

5. Take interest in what interests your spouse. Watch their favorite shows with them. Read their favorite book, so you can talk about it with them. Encourage them to develop their talents.

6. Listen to your spouse. Husbands, remember that women need to express their feelings. Be a good sport and just listen. Don't interrupt or get distracted. Empathize with her. Let her know that you can relate to what she's feeling. Ladies, please remember that the kind of talk you might like to have with your husband does not come naturally to most men. Just be patient. It's not a good idea to "unload" on him right when he comes home from work.

7. Accept your spouse for who they are. Practice total acceptance. Don't hold your spouse to your expectations; you will only succeed at building resentment.

8. Express your commitment. In little ways, you can, and should, renew your vows to each other over and over. Your spouse will feel comfortable and secure knowing that you are truly committed to the marriage. True closeness will only happen when all doubt and insecurity is replaced by confidence in the relationship. Let your spouse know that you really are in it "till death do us part."

9. Trust in each other. Don't be suspicious. Don't snoop through each other's belongings. To help ensure the trust, be honest with your spouse in all things. Never keep secrets from each other, not even little ones.

10. Make it your aim to be your spouse's best friend. Appreciate your spouse for who they are. Loosen up and have fun with each other. If you are practicing the steps above, you are on your way to being your spouse's best friend the ultimate relationship in marriage.

Forgiveness: Going Forward After the Breakup

2011-06-08T05:25:00.000+08:00

Forgiving your previous partner (all partners) is absolutely key to healing your heart and being able to attract a healthy partner in the future. People who do not forgive and heal end up unwittingly making similar choices in their next relationship, experiencing deja-vu, and asking, “How did this happen to me again?”

More than anything else, the inability to forgive destroys the one who holds the grudge, keeping the person stuck in a pattern of negativity and resentment. Remember that when you are loving and forgiving, the world will always give you that in return. If we consider that our partners did the best they could with where they are and the tools they have, and if we accept radical responsibility for everything that we attract in our lives, we realize there is nothing to forgive.

The Laws of Attraction tell us that we are the creators of our reality. So what we need to do is ask why we attracted this experience and what our soul needs to learn from it. From here, we can even move into gratefulness for this partner who has been our sacred mirror and teacher.

It's important, then, when a relationship ends to take that time to go inside. Don't keep yourself overly busy to avoid feeling the pain or focusing on angry feelings for the former partner. Instead, take some time to reflect on yourself. Ask God, the Universe, or your Higher Self to help you stay in your heart during this grieving process.

It is important to let yourself grieve, to cry if you need to. But don’t indulge indefinitely; give yourself a time limit and do not get lost in grief. You want to get to a place where you can honor and appreciate the gifts you received and release all negative thoughts and emotions about the partner or relationship.

If you stay in your heart, you can be grateful for the love that was shared, for all the joy and wonder that your relationship has given you and that can never be erased. Allow the memories of the gifts you received to ease your pain and open your heart even more. Know that love is always a gift. From your heart, think about why you attracted this partner and meditate or pray for guidance in understanding the lessons that your soul needed to learn in the relationship and in the ending of it. Once you understand without any negativity in your heart, you will to be free for greater love and passion.

Use this process to grow and to ask yourself how you can be a better partner in your next relationship—and that may include attracting a more appropriate partner.

Be very honest in your reflections. Maybe the truth is that you knew from the beginning this wasn’t the right person for you. Maybe there were red flags you ignored. Maybe you realize you were taking your partner for granted. Whatever the truths are, acknowledge them and learn from them.

Discard the illusions of victims and blame, and allow yourself to see the truth and learn. If you can learn from this, then your sadness will fade away and be replaced with gratitude for the gifts and growth you received.

Once you have worked through any negativity, taken responsibility and are in a place of gratitude, begin to think about the love that you wish to draw into your life in the future. Even though you may not feel ready for a new relationship now, focusing on this while your heart is open can be very helpful.

So take some time to envision the relationship that fills your heart’s deepest longing. Feel now a sense of knowing that when it is time, when you are ready, you will attract this partner to you. If you keep an open heart and realize the truth that there is nothing to forgive and only gratitude to hold on to, you will grow and learn, rather than making same mistakes again. And you will be ready to attract the perfect partner the next time around.

LONGEST MARRIED COUPLE (85 YEARS!)...GIVES RELATIONSHIP ADVICE

2011-06-07T21:34:00.000+08:00

Meet Herbert and Zelmyra Fisher of North Carolina . They have been married 85 years (86 in May) and hold the Guinness World Record for the longest marriage of a living couple and get this…. Zelmyra is 101 years old and Herbert is 104 .
The happily married couple teamed up with twitter this Valentine’s Day to answer some relationship questions. Check out their take on finding love , getting through hard times and more . Good read.

1. What made you realize that you could spend the rest of your lives together? Were you scared at all?
H & Z: With each day that passed, our relationship was more solid and secure.Divorce was NEVER an option - or even a thought.

2. How did you know your spouse was the right one for you?
We grew up together & were best friends before we married. A friend is for life - our marriage has lasted a lifetime

3. Is there anything you would do differently after more than 80 years of marriage?
We wouldn’t change a thing. There’s no secret to our marriage, we just did what was needed for each other & our family.

4. What is your advice to someone who is trying to keep the faith that Mr. Right is really out there?
Zelmyra: Mine was just around the corner! He is never too far away, so keep the faith - when you meet him, you’ll know.

5. What was the best piece of marriage advice you ever received?
Respect, support & communicate with each other.Be faithful, honest & true.Love each other with ALL of your heart

6. What are the most important attributes of a good spouse?
Zelmyra: A hard worker & good provider.The 1920s were hard,but Herbert wanted & provided the best for us.I married a good man!

7. What is your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: I cook dinner EVERY day.Herbert left work early & surprised me – he cooked dinner for me! He is a VERY good cook!
Herbert: I said that I was going to cook dinner for her & she could relax - the look on her face & clean plate made my day!

8. You got married very young – how did u both manage to grow as individuals yet not grow apart as a couple?
“Everyone who plants a seed & harvests the crop celebrates together” We are individuals, but accomplish more together.

9. What is your fondest memory of your 85-year marriage?
Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great grandchild.

10. Does communicating get easier with time? How do you keep your patience?
The children are grown, so we talk more now. We can enjoy our time on the porch or our rocking chairs - together.

11. How did you cope when you had to be physically separated for long periods of time?
Herbert: We were apart for 2 months when Z was hospitalized with our 5th child. It was the most difficult time of my life. Zelmyra’s mother helped me with the house and the other children, otherwise I would have lost my mind.

12. At the end of bad relationship day, what is the most important thing to remind yourselves?
Remember marriage is not a contest – never keep a score. God has put the two of you together on the same team to win

13. Is fighting important?
NEVER physically! Agree that it’s okay to disagree, & fight for what really matters. Learn to bend - not break!

14. What’s the one thing you have in common that transcends everything else?
We are both Christians & believe in God.Marriage is a commitment to the Lord.We pray with & for each other every day.

10 porutham for marriage match and compatibility

2011-05-08T10:58:00.000+08:00

There are 10 types of matches considered for marriage between a boy and girl. Apart from analysis of house 2nd, 4th, 7th these 10 porutham (10 matches) considered important. Rashi (Moon sign) and Nakshatra constellation are important. There are a number of software programs available to find jathaka porutham / pathu porutham. Without any software you can find it yourself with the following information. In Tamil Tradition marriage is considered an important part in life. So it is called ‘Aayiram kalathu payir’ (Plant of thousand years). Our ancient astrology gurus with the divine help created these 10 porutham concept to help find a good match for a boy or girl. In Tamil Nadu and most part of India the first step in a marriage is Analysis of the horoscope of the bride and groom. The marriage will be considered if only the horoscope / jathaka matches.

There are three types of results for each porutham:

Uthamam – Good
Mathimam – Not Bad
Athamam - Bad

10 Matches are:

1. Dhina portham
2. Gana porutham
3. Mahendra porutham
4. Sthree Dheerkam
5. Yoni porutham
6. Rasi porutham
7. Rasi athipathi porutham
8. Vasiya porutham
9. Rajju porutham
10. Vethai porutham

1. Dhina Porutham

Dina portham is essential for prosperous life without poverty and diseases.

You have to count from Girl’s Nakshatra to Boy’s Nakshatra.

While counting if you get 2,4,6,8,9,11,13,15,18,20,24 or 26 there is Dina porutham exist between the two. The result is Uthamam.
While counting except 1st quarter in 12th, except 4th quarter in 14th and except 3rd quarter in 16th are Mathimam.
All others and Ashtama Rashi Nakshatras are Athamam or no match.
Ashtama Rashi means 8th rasi.

For example 8th for Tarurus is Saggittarius.

Moolam 1,2,3,4 Pooradam 1,2,3,4 Uthiradam 1 belongs to that rashi.

When girls Nakshatra belongs to Rishab (Taurus) All nakshatras of Saggittarius won’t match.

Aega Nakhsatra / Same Nakshatra:
When both boy and girl have Rohini, Thiruvathirai, Poosam, Maham, Hastham, Thirivonam Dhina porutham will be uthamam.
When both have Ashwini, Bharani, Karthikai, Mrigashrish, Punarpoosam, Uthiram, Chithirai, Anusham the Dina portuham result will be Mathimam.
When both have same rashi boy’s nakshatra should precede girls. When both have same Nakshatra should precede that of the girl.
The rest 13 won’t match.
If you get 27 while counting match is considered, only if the rasi is same otherwise there is no match.
While counting from girl’s Nakshatra if boy’s comes as 7th, it is called ‘vatham’. While counting from boy’s nakshatra if girl’s comes as 22nd it is called ‘vinashika’. Vahtam and ‘Vinashika’ sould be rejected.
This is primary method for calculating dhina porutham. There is other method using Janmam, Anu Janmam, thri janmam. This is least used method, hence I am not explaining it here.

2. Gana Porutham

If both boy and girl belongs to Rakshash gana the match is uthamam.
If boy belongs to rakshash Gana and the girl belongs to any Gana the match will be Mathimam.
If girl belongs to rakshash Gana and there is no match if boy belongs to any other gana.
This match will determine mangala or auspiciousness.

3. Mahendra Porutham

If counted from girl’s nakshatra if you get 4,7,10,13,16,19,22,25 the match is uthamam. Otherwise no match.
This match is considered for offspring (children)

4. Sthree Theerkam

While counting from the Girl’s nakshatra if boy’s comes above 13 the match is uthamam. If it comes above 7 mathima porutham.
This porutham gives good longevity and prosperity.

5. Yoni Porutham

Yoni Table
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Nakshatra - Yoni
1. Ashwini - Male horse
2. Bharani - Male Elephant
3. Rohini - Male Snake (cobra)
4. Thiruvathirai - Male Dog
5. Poosam - Male Goat
6. Aayilyam - Male Cat
7. Maham - Male Rat (Mouse)
8. Uthiram - Male Ox
9. Chithirai - Male Tiger
10. Swathi - Male buffalo
11. Kettai - Male Deer
12. Pooradam - Male Monkey
13. Poorathathi - Male Lion
14. Karthikai - Female Goat
15. Mrigashrish - Female Elephant
16. Punarpoosam - Female Cat
17. Pooram - Female Tiger
18. Hastham - Female buffalo
19. Visakam - Female Tiger
20. Anusham - Female Deer
21. Moolam - Female Dog
22. Uthiradam - Female Cow
23. Thiruvonam - Female Monkey
24. Avittam - Female Lion
25. Sathayam - Female Monkey
26. Uthiratathi - Female Cow
27. Revathi - Female Elephant

While considering yoni match if boy has Male Yoni and girl has Female yoni the match is perfect or uthamam.
If both boy and girl has male yoni the match is mathimam.
Otherwise the match is Athamam or no match.
Yoni match is considered for physical compatibility or sexual compatibility.

6. Rasi porutham

If both the boy and girl belongs to the same rashi or boy’s rashi is greater than 6 while counting from girl’s rasi the match is uthamam.
While counting from girl’s rashi if boy’s rashi comes at 3,4 the match is mathimam.
6th and 8th rashi is sashtamsam and hence won’t match
2nd and 5th won’t match.
The purpose of rasi porutham is offspring and other important things in life.
While counting from girl if 3 comes the effect is sorrow, discomfort and suffering.
If 4 comes there will be poverty and struggle.
If 5 comes there will be misfortune and unhappiness in the family.
If 7 comes it will give auspicious results like progress and prosperity in the family.
While counting from groom if brides rasi occurs at 2,6 or 12 the above said ill effect will prevail.

7. Rashi athipathi (lord)

Planetary friendship table

If rasi lords of both boy and girl are mutual friends the result is uthamam.

If lords are equal the match is mathimam.
If they are enemy the match is athamam.

8. Vasiya Porutham.

Vasiya Table:
Rashi - Vasiya rasi
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Mesha (Aries) - Simha, Vrishika
Rishabh (Taurus) - Kadakam, Thulam
Mithun (Gemini) - Kanni
Kadakam (Cancer) - Vrichikam, thanusu
Simha (Leo) - Makaram
Kanni (Virgo) - Rishabam, Meenam
Thulam (Libra) - Makaram
Vrichikam (Scorpio) - Kadakam, Kanni
Tanush (Saggittarius) - Meenam
Makaram (Capricorn) - Kumbam
Kumbam (Aquarius) - Meenam
Meenam (Pisces) - Makaram

If boy’s rasi becomes vasiya for a given girls rasi it is uthamam or good match.
For example girls is Mesha rasi and boy belongs to simha or vrishika it is uthamam
If girl’s rasi becomes vasiya for a given boy’s rasi it is mathimam.
Otherwise no vasiya portham exits.

9. Rajju Portham

Rajju is considered important marriage match. It denotes Mangalya bala. If there is no rachu marriage is not recommended.

Rajju Table:
Nakshatra - Rajju Type
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Mrigashrish, Chithirai, Avittam - Sirasu rajju
Rohini, Hastham, Thiruvonam, Thiruvathirai, swathi, sathayam -Kanda rajju (neck)
Karthikai, uthiram, uthiradam, punarpoosam, visakam, pooratathi -Uthara raju (stomach)
Bharani, pooram, pooradam, poosam, anusham, uthirathati - Thodai rajju (Leg)
Aswini, makam, mulam, aayilyam, kettai, revathi - Patha rajju (Foot)
If both bride and groom’s nakshatras belongs to same rajju there is no match. Otherwise match exist
If both belong to sirasu rachu husband will die.
If both are kanda rajju wife will die
If both are uthara rajju there will be puthra dosha (no children)
If both are Thodai rajju there will be property loss
If both are patha rajju there will be dangers from traveling.

10. Vedhai Porutham

Nakshatra - Vedha Nakshatra
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Aswini - Kettai
Bharani - Anusham
Karthikai - Visakam
Rohini - Swathi
Thiruvathirai - Thiruvonam
Punarpoosam - Uthiradam
Poosam - Pooradam
Aayilyam - Moolam
Maham - Revathi
Pooram - Uthiratathi
Uthiram - Pooratathi
Hastham - Satayam

If boy and girls Nakshatra becomes vedha to each other it won’t match.

Beyond 10 porutham:
Apart from these 10 matches between two horoscopes there is another thing called nadi porutham.

North Indian consider this important. Body belongs to three nadis Vatha, Pitha, sileshma. This is related with medicine and wellbeing and health.
If girl belongs to vatha nadi, boy should be pitha or sleshma nadi.
There are other aspects like sevvai dosha, rahu-kethu dosha, Kala sarpa dosha and dasa santhi apart from ‘pathu porutham’.

Fate vs Free Will

2011-04-12T14:54:00.002+08:00

What determines the course of our lives? Is it fate? Are our life paths predetermined by a higher power? Or is it freewill? Are we the masters of our own destinies in a random universe?

At least once a day, I say: “Everything happens for a reason.” But what exactly does that mean? Is there really a reason for everything? And if so, what is it?
No one can really answer these questions, but it’s important to give it thought.

The Arguments
Philosophers and religious figures have been having the—Fate vs. Freewill—debate for centuries. On one hand, there are those who believe in Fate. This group includes many religious people. If you believe in a God then you likely believe that that God is responsible for the creation of the universe and all of the happenings within it. Everything that happens in every person’s life is God’s will. Also in this category are the non-religious people who don’t necessarily believe in a God, but do believe in an ordered universe, karma, and destiny.
On the other hand, there are those who believe in Freewill. They believe that every individual is entirely responsible for everything that happens in his own life. There is no God and no destiny. Life is random. Some skeptics and atheists fall into this category.
Then of course, there are those in the middle. This group believes that our lives are a combination of Fate and Freewill. We can not know for certain whether our lives are governed by Fate or Freewill or both. As unenlightened human beings, we are not capable of acquiring this knowledge. However, we are capable of feeling what guides us. Sometimes, the feeling of what guides us is so strong, that it takes control of our lives. We may feel a God guiding us; we may feel Fate guiding us; we may feel only Freewill guiding us; and so on. Each of our experiences is different.
In my own life, I feel both Fate and Freewill guiding me. How can this be? I will share a story that captures my beliefs.

The Old Man and the Storm
One night an old man had a dream that a storm would come and wipe away his village, but that God would protect him. As expected, a terrible storm came to his village the next day.
On the first day of the storm, the old man’s brother came and warned the old man to get out of the village straight away. The conditions would grow worse. The old man refused, knowing that God would protect him. On the second day, a neighbor came through. He was fleeing with his family and offered to take the old man with them. The old man denied this help because he was sure that God was going to protect him.  On the third day, the man took to his roof as the storm waters raged below. A group of villagers came by on a boat and offered to take him to safety. Again, the old man refused knowing that God had promised to protect him. 
Soon after, the old man drowned and died. In heaven, he asked God: “Why didn’t you help me as you promised?”
God replied: “I sent your brother, your neighbor, and even a boat; but you declined my help.”
This story shows us that life is a combination of Fate and Freewill. Fate (God, destiny, the universe) may be present in our lives, but ultimately, we must utilize our own Freewill to fulfill our potential.

Create Your Destiny through Fate
The question remains: How do we create our own destiny and fulfill our life’s purpose if we don’t even know whether we are governed by Fate or Freewill?
We do not have to be religious or to worship any God to understand the wisdom in this Bible verse. It is in our power to create our own destiny through Fate. It takes awareness, passion, and commitment but every person is capable of doing this. Here are some ways to get started:

1. Look for signs — The universe is constantly sending us signs. We must choose to acknowledge those signs, accept them, and take action.
Have you ever had a gut-feeling about something? That gut-feeling is your intuition speaking to you. Too often people ignore their intuition and that is a grave mistake! It is your job to listen to your intuitive instincts and take action (Freewill).

2. Follow your passion — Fulfilling your life’s purpose means living out your passion. Align the various elements of your life with your passion—your career, hobbies, free time, the people around you, your surroundings, and so on.
The more you live your passion, the closer you will come to reaching your destiny. Do what makes you come alive.

3. Have faith — If you are a religious person or even a spiritual person, then you already know exactly what faith is. But you can have faith, even if you are not religious or spiritual. Faith is knowing and believing in something even if you can not see it. For example, I have never seen a million dollars, but I know that it exists.
Faith is the energy that will take you through life, guide you over challenges, and allow you to be the master of your own destiny even when times get tough. Always have faith that if it is not okay, it is not the end.

4. Work for it — Finally, you’ll have to work. Work hard and work smart. Whether it is Fate or Freewill guiding you, these things mean nothing if you don’t put in the work that it takes to fulfill your life’s purpose.

There are no short cuts in life. There are no magic bullets. Accomplishments and greatness are a result of hard work, blood, sweat, and tears. The harder and smarter that you work, the luckier you’ll get. It’s not a coincidence.

What are your thoughts? Do you believe that Fate or Freewill guides your path? Or are you like me, believing that it is a combination of both? Have you ever had a life-changing experience that has caused you to favor one idea or the other?

Journey to your own absence...

2011-02-11T16:29:00.002+08:00

A balloon, filled with air, floats in an infinite sea of air. And the balloon says to itself, "I'm an individual. I live in a world full of individuals. A world of me and mine: my thoughts, my memories, my beliefs, my achievements, my successes, my failures, my past, my future, my relationships. I own a little piece of the whole, a little piece of life. This is my little part of everything."

What the balloon fears most is its own popping - in other words, its own death - because it sees this as the ultimate loss of 'me and mine'. In other words, death is the loss of 'my little part of everything'. The end of 'my life'.

What the balloon cannot see is that death is liberation. Upon death, 'my little part of everything' simply explodes back into everything. 'My life' dissolves back into life itself. And what is seen is that 'my life' was always an illusion, because there was never anyone there separate from everything. There was only ever everything. The balloon never 'had' anything to begin with, and so could never 'lose' anything. In other words, there is no 'individual' separate from life itself - there only appears to be.

The mind (thought) will never be able to comprehend this. But somewhere beyond the mind, somewhere beyond the stories we tell about life, somewhere beyond all of our concepts, philosophies, ideologies, religions... there can be a recognition, a resonance, a knowing. And that's what this message is really about: a recognition that's totally beyond mind and beyond words.

You are perfect as you are - even in your imperfection. Life is perfect as it is, even if you cannot see that yet. This is a journey into your own absence, an absence which finally reveals itself as the perfect presence of everything, as the Home you've always been seeking, and what will be found is this: You wrote these words yourself, to remind yourself of what, deep down, you have always known.

Rumah Hope

2011-01-19T18:24:00.005+08:00

Rumah Hope was established in 1994 by Good Hope Church as an outreach programmed in aid of 5 needy children and as a sanctuary for abused, neglected and underprivileged children between the age of 5 – 17. Presently, it is the home for 60 children. In view of the growing number of children under our care, we are now raising funds for the extension of the Girls’ Dormitory.

Our Needs
The home is self supporting, depending solely on public contribution for its day-to-day running. Apart from staffing & administrative expenses and utility bills, a major part of our funding goes towards the maintenance of these children who are between the ages of four and seventeen years. All our children are school going. At present we have about 60 children and our operating expenses is between RM22,000 – RM25,000 a month.

Raising this much amount every month is a tall order and we solely rely on the generosity of public and corporations to raise funds. We welcome cash donations of any amount and all donations above RM100 would be provided with a Tax Exempt Receipt if required.

We also welcome donations in kind and some of the items urgently required by the Home include:

1.Provisions especially
a) Rice
b) Sugar
c) Sardines
d) Eggs
e) Milk Powder
f) Etc

2. Meat especially Chicken & Vegetables
3. Cloths including School Uniforms, Shoes and etc.
4. Toiletries

Add : No 45, Jalan 20/2. Paramount Garden. 46300 Petaling Jaya.
Tel : 03-79545523
Fax : 03-79545722
Email : enquiry@rumahhope.org
Website : http://www.rumahhope.org

Foods That Keep The Heart Healthy

2011-01-07T08:54:00.002+08:00

Heart disease are among the worst enemies of women. Here we recommend that food cardiologists to prevent these diseases.

Cardiovascular disease is the leading cause of death,
hospitalization and physical disability to the level of the adult population and elderly across Europe, say cardiologists.

55% of deaths reported among European women are a pain caused by heart or cardiovascular system, when these diseases could be prevented quite easily, with a healthy lifestyle, even by those who have some heart patients among the relatives. If you want to protect your heart, one of the most important things you can do is control your diet. Few of us understand what may be hazardous foods we eat every day not only for the heart, and how well it would make us a proper diet.

The experts recommend that most of the fat you eat is mono and polyunsaturated fats. Monounsaturated fats are contained in olive oil and nuts, but also in the fruit of avocado. Polyunsaturated fats are found in sunflower, corn or soy and fish. The species of fish are recommended: salmon, herring, trout and fresh tuna, which are rich in omega-3 fatty acids. The fish is eaten at least twice a week.

In return, cardiologists recommend us to avoid butter, lard, meat fat pork, the skin of chicken, French fries, donuts, cookies and fast food kind of food. Salt is another enemy of the heart. Experts say that are consumed on average 20 grams of salt a day, when we need to only 3.5 to 5 grams. The caverns, which contains sodium, leading to the growth of blood pressure. Alcohol also has this effect, which increases the risk of a cerebral vascular accident. If you exceed 400-500 ml of wine per day, or three doses of beer, your heart is in danger. In return, the “light or moderate alcohol consumption (250-350 ml wine per day) is not contraindicated for cardiovascular system,” we reassure specialists, who recommend the red wine instead of other beverages.

Fruits and vegetables and whole grains are among the healthier foods, according to specialists. We know that a meal, put the pot should be filled with vegetables, and fruit is the perfect dessert, or may even take the place of the usual snacks. Dairy products give many benefits, but the cardiologists recommend only those skinny, with a maximum of 1% fat.

Beyond these recommendations, which cardiologists are now so many years, recent studies have found other foods that fight against heart disease.

It seems that green tea protects the cardiovascular system by reducing atherosclerosis. The study conducted in 2009 showed that regular consumption of green tea is associated with a 38% reduction in risk of atherosclerosis.

An increased level of vitamin D in the blood can prevent the risk of a heart attack, and the benefits are great, even for those who are young and healthy, who have no history of heart disease.

Another study shows that dietary supplements with vitamin K2 or eating plenty of green vegetables, reducing by 10% the risk of coronary disease. Vitamin K2 is found in eggs, liver, and fermented cheeses. Along with a healthy diet, cardiologists recommend us a lot of movement, giving up smoking and avoid stress.

7 Key Qualities of a Successful Entrepreneur

2010-10-20T21:46:00.003+08:00

Being an entrepreneur is about more than just starting a business or two, it is about having attitude and the drive to succeed in business. All successful Entrepreneurs have a similar way of thinking and posses several key personal qualities that make them so successful in business. Successful entrepreneurs like the ambitious Richard Branson,

have an inner drive to succeed and grow their business, rather than having a Harvard Business degree or technical knowledge in a particular field.

All successful entrepreneurs have the following qualities:

Inner Drive to Succeed
Entrepreneurs are driven to succeed and expand their business. They see the bigger picture and are often very ambitious. Entrepreneurs set massive goals for themselves and stay committed to achieving them regardless of the obstacles that get in the way.

Strong Belief in themselves
Successful entrepreneurs have a healthy opinion of themselves and often have a strong and assertive personality. They are focused and determined to achieve their goals and believe completely in their ability to achieve them. Their self optimism can often been seen by others as flamboyance or arrogance but entrepreneurs are just too focused to spend too much time thinking about un-constructive criticism.

Search for New Ideas and Innovation
All entrepreneurs have a passionate desire to do things better and to improve their products or service. They are constantly looking for ways to improve. They're creative, innovative and resourceful.

Openness to Change
If something is not working for them they simply change. Entrepreneurs know the importance of keeping on top of their industry and the only way to being number one is to evolve and change with the times. They're up to date with the latest technology or service techniques and are always ready to change if they see a new opportunity arise.

Competitive by Nature
Successful entrepreneurs thrive on competition. The only way to reach their goals and live up to their self imposed high standards is to compete with other successful businesses.

Highly Motivated and Energetic
Entrepreneurs are always on the move, full of energy and highly motivated. They are driven to succeed and have an abundance of self motivation. The high standards and ambition of many entrepreneurs demand that they have to be motivated!

Accepting of Constructive Criticism and Rejection
Innovative entrepreneurs are often at the forefront of their industry so they hear the words "it can't be done" quite a bit. They readjust their path if the criticism is constructive and useful to their overall plan, otherwise they will simply disregard the comments as pessimism. Also, the best entrepreneurs know that rejection and obstacles are a part of any leading business and they deal with them appropriately.

True entrepreneurs are resourceful, passionate and driven to succeed and improve. They're pioneers and are comfortable fighting on the frontline The great ones are ready to be laughed at and criticized in the beginning because they can see their path ahead and are too busy working towards their dream.

Until We Meet

2010-09-30T12:19:00.000+08:00

Until We Meet

Until we meet
My nights will be a little colder
My days a little shorter
My heart will beat a little less rapid
Until we meet
I know that my arms will be empty
My mind hurting from the constant thought of you
Minutes will seem to be hours
Hours will seem to be months
While months will seem like eternity
Until we meet
The stars in the sky will not affect me
with its gleaming sparkles of life

Until I am gazing at them in your arms
And the food that I eat will not be as fulfilling and nourishing
Until it is you that I share the my food with
And Until we meet
I will not feel whole
My world will seem incomplete
Until that wonderful day
When our eyes make first contact
And our bodies and souls collide in blissful whirlwind
The words will roll off my tongue like a sweet love song
"Hello, my love, I couldn't wait to meet you."

THE GREATEST ADVICE ~the Purpose Driven Life~

2010-09-29T02:15:00.000+08:00

THE GREATEST ADVICE
~the Purpose Driven Life~

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.

Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough & know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals.
Don't stagnate!

Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr. Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr. Wrong because your
biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won,
only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.
To make yourself happy,
pursue your passions & be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and
dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.

Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.
Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.

It isn't true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!

When you give someone your time,
you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give to
someone is your time.
Relationships take time and effort,
and the best way to spell love is
T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others,
but how much we give of ourselves
God is good all the time!

Here are 10 tips to reduce your stress, anytime, anyplace.

2010-07-06T10:37:00.001+08:00

Here are 10 tips to reduce your stress, anytime, anyplace.

1. Turn off your cell phone for 1 hour a day.

2. Create rituals for yourself. Rituals help ground us, especially when we feel out of control. A ritual can be as simple as going for a morning jog or enjoying an evening bath.

3. Call a friend and let off steam. Friends are one of the great joys in life, You can share your feelings, cry when you need to, laugh and have fun with a friend. And there is growing scientific evidence that meaningful involvement with others actually buffers the wearing and tearing effects of stressful situations.

4. Get your priorities straight. Think about what's really important - family, friends, good health - and make them the focus of your attention. Put unnecessary distractions at the very bottom of your to-do list. This will keep things in your life from spiraling out of control.

5. Reconnect with nature. Take a walk in the park. Fill your life with flowers. There is a peace, a connectedness, a sense of balance and justice we get through nature that is vital to our emotional and mental health.

6. Improve your lifestyle habits. Regular physical activity and a healthy diet can improve weight, energy levels, self-confidence and overall health and well-being, making it much easier for you to handle daily stressors.

7. Breathe deeply. Inhale through your nose. Pull the air all the way down, deep into the lungs. Hold the breath for a count of six. Exhale slowly through the mouth to the count of six. Do this for several minutes.

8. Smile. Have a good belly laugh. Watch funny movies, Read funny stories. Laughter is a great way to relieve stress. It dissolves tension and seems to help brighten the situation. Another plus - laughter seems to help boost your immune system, in turn making you less prone to developing colds and other infections.

9. Do one thing at a time. One of the best ways to cope with feelings of being overwhelmed is to pick one urgent task and finish it. Once you accomplish that task, choose the next one, The positive feeling of "checking off " tasks is very satisfying and will motivate you to keep going.

10. When the world closes in on you and your head feels a size too small, reach for some Peace of Mind. Practice some massage onto the back of your neck, temples and earlobes melts away tension and tightness - in nature's gentle, non-habit forming way.

You will never be happier than you expect. To change your happiness, change your expectation.

Realize that true happiness lies within you. Waste no time and effort searching for peace and contentment and joy in the world outside. Remember that there is no happiness in having or in getting, but only in giving. Reach out. Share. Smile. Hug. Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.

7 Simple Ways to Beat Stress

2010-05-18T21:09:00.003+08:00

7 Simple Ways to Beat Stress

Stress happens. No matter how organized you are, how good your systems are, or how friendly your work and living environments are, stress can find a way to poke its ugly head in from time to time. What can you do? Turn to a convenient Stress Buster - a small, simple activity that clears your head and calms you down. When you feel a stress attack coming on, it's the perfect time to turn to one of these busters and kick that stress out the door.

Here are 7 ways to beat stress, but feel free to develop your own:

1. Take a walk
Want a break from the office? Does your house feel like an insane asylum? Slip out the door and let your feet take you somewhere. Not only will walking give you the opportunity to clear your head and take a break from that hectic situation, but it's great aerobic exercise, too.

2. Call a friend
We all have someone whose voice alone perks us up. Give them a buzz, even for a few minutes. Whether with a joke or a funny story, or just by listening, they will likely put a smile on your face and calm you down. Besides, what are friends for?

3. Write in a journal
Expressing our feelings could be the best way to deal with stress. Keeping a journal is a way to capture those feelings at any moment. You don't have to worry about what others think or say, just let your pen do the work. By the time you're done, those feelings will be on their way out of your system.

4. Play a board game
Remember these? Maybe there are a dozen stashed in your closet, waiting to be dusted off. Monopoly/Business probably should be saved until you have a few hours to spare, but quick kids' games like Ludo or Snakes and Ladders are always good for a smile.

5. Work up a sweat
Have some pent up frustrations? There's no better way to get rid of them than by exercising. Pop in a workout tape, hop on your bike or grab your jump rope. You'll be too busy working up a sweat to worry about what's stressing you out. Picture the stress leaving your body through your pores.

6. Plan something fun
Is there a trip you want to take but never had time to get it together? Or a dinner you've always wanted to make? Now's the time. Not only will you take your mind off things, but you'll be spending time eagerly anticipating a great getaway or meal later. It's a win-win situation.

7. Take a hot bath
A hot bath will initially give your body a kick, which in turn will give your mind a kick too - and then it'll slow both down. Add bubbles and a few candles and you have the ultimate soothing atmosphere.

Ganesha, ‘lingga yoni’ found at newly discovered.

2010-01-25T16:09:00.003+08:00

An excavation team from the Yogyakarta Prehistoric Legacy Conservation Center examines a Ganesha statue and lingga yoni on Wednesday at the newly discovered site within the Indonesian Islamic University in Yogyakarta. The site was believed to be part of an ancient Hindu temple. JP/Tarko Sudiarno
The Yogyakarta Prehistoric Legacy Conservation Center (BP3) has found a Ganesha statue and lingga- yoni structures at the site of a newly discovered structure believed to be part of an ancient temple.
Head of the center’s protection working group Indung Panca Putra said the findings led the excavation team to conclude that the site, located in the Indonesian Islamic University (UII) campus on Jl. Kaliurang, Yogyakarta, was from a Hindu kingdom.
“We uncovered it Tuesday afternoon,” Indung said, adding that the team was forced to stop excavating shortly after due to fading light and decided to continue Wednesday.
The Ganesha was found facing west with an elevation of 17 degrees from the north. In Hindu mythology, Ganesha is the son of Shiva and is described as having a broken right tusk, a rope on his shoulders, a chain of pearls in his right hand and an axe in his left hand.
As of Wednesday the hands of the Ganesha were not unearthed as part of the body was still buried.
The lingga-yoni structures were found 85 centimeters to the east of the Ganesha.
The team expects to find two more statues on the site, because according to Hindu mythology lingga and yoni always accompany statues of Durga Mahisasura Mardini and Agastya.
“Materials from volcanic eruptions could have buried these two statues,” Indung said. The site is located at the base of Mount Merapi.
The excavation team, which began Saturday and will continue until January 4, have also uncovered 16 pieces of parts of a temple wall. “We will study the findings in order to decide how to proceed on this dig,” Indung said.
Compared to previous discoveries of Hindu temples in the region, this site is considered less elaborate. “The Ganesha, for example, is around 85 centimeters high while Prambanan Temple’s Ganesha is as tall as an adult,” Indung said.
The ornaments, he added, were also simpler. The head of the Ganesha found in Prambanan Temple, for example, has three levels with a crown on it. The one found at the site, however, has no crown and its hair is just tied.
These traits, according to Indung, show that the newly found temple served a smaller area. “If Prambanan Temple served an entire kingdom, for example, then this site would have served a village,” he said.
Indung, however, said his colleagues haven’t been able to estimate the age of the temple structure.
“This could be younger or older than Prambanan,” he said.
He added that based on the existing discovery, the site dated back to the ancient Mataram period between the 9th and 10th centuries. “We can ascertain the age of the site if we find the plaque identifying the year and the king who commissioned the temple,” Indung said.
The complex is closed to the public to secure the site. “If this proves to be an important site the owner will be compensated by BP3,” Indung said.
Construction workers accidentally found the temple structure last Friday while laying a foundation to build a library building at the university compound on Jl. Kaliurang in Umbulmartani subdistrict, Ngemplak district, Sleman regency.
UII Rector Edy Suandi Hamid confirmed his university will relocate the site of the library and is working with the BP3 and the Education Ministry.

Luv’s Cookies & Cream

2010-01-11T17:46:00.000+08:00

Space Hotel

2009-12-08T14:06:00.002+08:00

Start planning that vacation to outer space: The first space hotel is expected to open as soon as 2012, it was reported today.

The hotel, "Galactic Suites," will allow adventurous travelers to enjoy a spectacular starry view from their hotel rooms, see the Sun rise 15 times a day and take part in scientific experiments while theyÕre not using Velcro suits to crawl around their pod-room walls.

The trip won't be cheap though--a three-day stay will cost around $4 million, according to Reuters.

There were a few design kinks the company that is creating the hotel had to work out too, especially those involving water.

"It's the bathrooms in zero gravity that are the biggest challenge," company director Xavier Claramunt told Reuters. "How to accommodate the more intimate activities of the guests is not easy."

But they have found a solution to the problem of how to allow guests to shower: a spa room where guests can float around in bubbles of water.

And forget "around the world in 80 days"-- guest will travel around the world in 80 minutes.

The hotel was no more than a dream of Claramunt's until a generous space enthusiast fronted the $3 billion needed to build the hotel.

An American company aimed at colonizing Mars has invested in the hotel, which will be built from pods connected in a molecule-like structure, Reuters reported. Other private investors in Japan, the United States and the United Arab Emirates are also in talks to invest in the company.

It is up in the air as to how many people would be eager to make the trip into space for a weightless hotel stay.

"We have calculated that there are 40,000 people in the world who could afford to stay at the hotel. Whether they will want to spend money on going into space, we just don't know," Claramunt told Reuters.

http://travel.smart-guide.net/galactic-suite-the-first-space-hotel-in-2012

http://www.cnn.com/2007/TECH/08/14/space.hotel.reut/index.html

http://www.galacticsuite.com

My Heart Believes In You

2009-11-28T12:13:00.000+08:00

My Heart Believes In You

I kept my head up high,
and then you came my way.
I have been hurt so many times.
My heart filled with so much pain.
but now that pain has gone away.
For I have found a place I want to be.
This place I see is with thee.
For in your arms I have felt and seen,
a wonderful feeling that I cannot believe.
A safe haven in your arms just for me.
Now I give my heart to thee.
For my heart believes in you.

I Called Your Name

2009-11-28T12:02:00.000+08:00

I Called Your Name

I called the sun and he answered me
I called the moon and she treasured me
I called the stars and they cried for me
When I called your name only silence came back to me.

I called the earth and she befriended me
I called the sky and she watched over me.
I called the seas and they refreshed me.
When I whispered your name only silence came back to me.

I called the wind and he carried me
I called the fire and he lit for me
I called the animals and they sang for me
When I spoke your name only silence came back to me.

I've seen you pass with my very eyes
I've seen you smile and my heart just sighs

Why Do We SHOUT ?

2009-10-02T10:53:00.001+08:00

Why Do We SHOUT ?

One day, a professor asked his students 'Why do we SHOUT instead of speak when we are ANGRY?'

All the students thought for a while. One answered 'Because we lost our cool. That's why we SHOUT.'

Asked the professor again, 'But the person is just right next to you, why can't we talk softly but have to SHOUT?'

Everyone gave their opinions but none was accepted by the professor.

Lastly explained by the professor 'When we are ANGRY, our hearts drift apart. To mask the DISTANCE we felt, we instinctively SHOUT instead of speak so the other party can hear us.'

'But as we SHOUT, we get ANGRIER. And we felt we drift apart further. So we SHOUT even louder...'

'It is the opposite when we are in love. Not only we do not shout, we whisper into each other ears. Why?'

'This is because our hearts are very close, almost never apart. As our love deepen, we reach a state of communication where there is no need for words.'

'We understand each other well enough just by exchanging look,' concluded the professor.

'Therefore, when we are arguing, DO NOT speak words that will make our hearts drift apart. WAIT a few days. When you feel your hearts are no longer far apart, pick up the conversation and continue from there.'

Breathing Therapy Makes you Relax

2009-07-22T10:29:00.007+08:00

The nose has a left and a right side; we use both to inhale and exhale.

Actually they are different; you would be able to feel the difference.
The right side represents the sun, left side represents the moon.
During a headache, try to close your right nose and use your left nose to breathe.

In about 5 mins, your headache will go?

If you feel tired, just reverse, close your left nose and breathe through your right nose.
After a while, you will feel your mind is refreshed.

Right side belongs to 'hot', so it gets heated up easily, left side belongs to 'cold'.

Most females breathe with their left noses, so they get "cooled off" faster.

Most of the guys breathe with their right noses, they get worked up.

Do you notice the moment we wake up, which side breathes faster? Left or right? ?

If left is faster, you will feel tired.
So, close your left nose and use your right nose for breathing, you will get refreshed quickly.

This can be taught to kids, but it is more effective when practiced by adults.

This alternative natural therapy without medication is something that he has experienced.

So, why not give it a try?

The Most Confusing Word

2009-06-29T03:43:00.000+08:00

Hidden among all the words
In the vast vocabulary of everyday

Lies a single, short word
Confusing to everyone in every way

Some people insist they are experts
Knowing everything it entails

Others readily deny it
and admit to knowing that it fails

Poets old and new alike
Have forever guided its reputation

Telling of the happiness and joy
Or its ever present state of devastation

People view this single term
With their own experience in mind

And come to their own conclusion
But many are viewing it blind

Many people admit to using it loosely
Not fully understanding its heavy weight

Others admit to never saying it
Not willing to suffer an ill fate

As a person stuck in between
Looking at it from both sides

I know the feelings of both
And the emotions it provides

As a woman of only 18 years
I can admit and honestly say

That love has eluded me so far
All I can do now is pray

That I will one day learn
What it is like to be

Surrounded by this word
From someone who has it for me

Tamil Semmozhi Maanadu - AR Rahman

2009-06-25T23:34:00.000+08:00

Ulaga Thamizh Semmozhi Maanadu Tamil anthem was written by Kalaignar M.karunanidhi and A.R. Rahman composed for the Tamil Anthem Of Ulaga Thamizh Semmozhi Maanadu and Director-ed by Gowtham Vasudev Menon.

Lyrics Of Ulaga Thamizh Semmozhi Maanadu Anthem:
T.M.Soundararajan: Pirapokkum Ella Uyirkkum Pirandha Pinnar
A.R.R: Yaadhum Oore Yaavarum Kelir
Harini : Onbadhu Naazhi Udupathu Irande
Chinmayi : Uraividam Enbadhu Ondre
Karthik : Uraithu Vazhndhom Uzhaithu Vazhvom
Hariharan : Theedhum Nandrum Pirar Thara Vaarai Yenum Nan Mozhiye Nam Pon Mozhiyaam
A.R.Rahman, Yuvan : Porrai Puram Thallzhi Porulai Podhuvaakave
Chorus : Amaidhi Vazhi Kaatum Anbu Mozhi Ayyan Valluvarin Vaaimozhiyaam
A.R.R, Yuvan ,Chorus : Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
P.Susheela Humming...
Vijay Yesudas : Orrarivu Mudhal Aararivu Uyirinam Varayile Unarndhidum Udal Amaipai Pagairthu Koorum
P.Susheela : Orrarivu Mudhal Aararivu Uyirinam Varayile Unarndhidum Udal Amaipai Pagairthu Koorum
G.V.Prakash Kumar : Thozhgapugal Tolkappiyamum Oppatra Kural Koorum Uyar Panpaadu
Naresh Iyer, Chorus : Olikindra Silamubum Meghalayum Sindhamaniyudane
T.L. Maharajan : Valayapathi Kundalakesiyumm
Chorus, Nithya Shree Humming : Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Blaaze, Rayhanah : Kamba Naataaivarum Kavi Arasavai Nallaalum Yemmadhamum Yetrum Pugal Endrum Yethanayo Aayiram Kavidhai Neivor Tharum Thadai
Anaithukkum Vithaaga Vilangum Mozhi
Nagoor Brothers : Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Dr. Bala Murali Krishna, Srinivas, Chorus : Agam Endrum Puram Endrum Vazhvai Azhagaaga Vaguthalithu Aadhi Andam Illathu Irukindra Iniya Mozhi Modhi Valarum
Uyiraana Ulaga Mozhi Tham Mozhi Nam Mozhi Adhuve..
Shruti Haasan : Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam Tamizh Mozhi Tamizh Mozhi Tamizh Mozhi Ya Ghaa..
Chorus : Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam
Chinnaponnu : Thamizh Mozhiyam Engal Thamil Mozhiyam
Thamizh Mozhiyam Engal Thamil Mozhiyam
A.R.Rahman : Vazhiya Vazhiya Ve.. Thamizh.. Vazhiya Vazhiya Ve
Vazhiya Vazhiya Ve.. Thamizh.. Vazhiya Vazhiya Ve
A.R.Rahman : Semmozhiyaana Tamizh Mozhiyaam

Contribution On Building Material Sinthamani Divine Life Ashram

2009-06-22T16:27:00.008+08:00

Ref:Contribution On Building Material Sinthamani Divine Life Ashram

Dear Sir/Madam

Refer to above matter ,we are looking forword for the above item for our
ashram rebuild for over all.The item that we need are:

1)Bricks - 60 pallet (1 pallet=Rm130.00)
2)Simen - 600 bags (1 bag=Rm16.00)
3)Pasir Kasar - 6 lorry 10 tan (1 lorry=Rm500.00)
4)Pasir Halus -6 loory 10 tan (1 lorry=Rm500.00)
5)BCR Steal - Rm4000.00
6)Electrik Things
7)Celling
8)Indonesian Sallary - Rm16000.00

We are looking forword for contribute on the above item
We pray that we almight god will bless those who hafe come forward to contribute
The contributionfor the children's and our ashram will really help us alot

For More Info Contact Mr Bala : 017-6793138 / balasekar@bizedge.com or

Miss Jamuna at : 012-2746575.

Top Indian students denied scholarships and public universities

2009-06-15T10:55:00.000+08:00

The Human Rights Party has called for a press conference to bring to the attention of the authorities concerned and to the public, at large the dissatisfaction of the Indian community in the way the young of the community are being systematically denied opportunities for JPA scholarship, for entrance into public universities.

HRP and Hindraf gave an ultimatum to the Higher Education Ministry and the Prime Minister that they will burn the 1Malaysia effigy if they fail to solve the problem of the Indian students not getting a place in the higher learning institution.

Six Personality Traits Worth Adopting

2009-05-19T17:15:00.000+08:00

As humans, we often focus on those who are negative or toxic leaving it difficult to appreciate those who are positive and healthy. Seeking out individuals with healthy, positive traits, however, may naturally help us to stay clear (or at least clearer) of those who are toxic, who zap our energy or who make us feel badly. Further, the more we can surround ourselves with those who are positive and healthy, the more we may model those positive behaviors.

If you really think about it, once in awhile you come across a person who knocks you off your socks … legitimately. Maybe they have the best outlook on life, maybe they’re really wealthy but you would never know it, maybe they make you feel special. There’s a good chance that many of these people possess a few, if not all of the traits mentioned below. (Although I could probably list a dozen characteristics, I thought I’d list those that seem to be the rarest or most difficult to find in others.)

1. Selflessness: In a world where many people don’t have the time to be interested in others, selflessness is a quality that seems to be less and less common. People can be selfless in the time they give, the ability to listen, their level of patience and the love that they give. Those who are giving and generous in nature have the power to make others feel loved, appreciated, and special, while those who are self-absorbed tend to do the exact opposite.

2. Tolerance: People who are tolerant make us feel comfortable with who we are and special as individuals. All of us are different, and many of us have quirks and idiosyncrasies. After all, these differences make the world go round. Having the ability to accept people for who they are and not expect them to be who we want them to be is important in life, happiness, and in the health of our relationships.

3. Genuineness: Having the ability to be real, authentic, and honest is unique in a world where we put so much emphasis on the superficial. Feeling comfortable in your skin and being true to yourself is one of the most beautiful traits a person possess. To have a real relationship with someone requires honesty. It requires hearing and giving input or feedback that may not always be popular. It means having the strength to tell it like it is and not being afraid to face the consequences for doing so. It means loving people for who they really are, deep down, and not for what they appear to be.

4. Sensitivity: So often, we’re so focused on what’s important to us that we can forget about those around us. Those who are sensitive are often thoughtful, appreciative, and loving, in a way that makes you feel understood, valued, and respected. Often, sensitive people are also self-aware, making them mindful of how they impact others with what they do and say.

5. Integrity: Call me cynical, but I think this characteristic is especially difficult to find, especially in a time when people will do things that are underhanded to make an extra buck. (Bernie Madoff, can you hear me?) They expose their personal lives to the public so they can be famous (balloon boy’s dad and any other reality TV mongers). They do what feels good in the moment without necessarily thinking of the consequences (Tiger Woods). Integrity is a characteristic that is especially unique today.

6. Humility: Whether someone is super-smart, extremely talented, or drop-dead gorgeous, there’s something extra special about them if they don’t come across as though they know it all the time. Humility in those who possess extraordinary traits makes others feel special, too.

Top 10: Ways To Become A More Attractive Guy

2009-05-18T21:36:00.000+08:00

Most men want to have more -- or better -- women in their lives. However, they don’t know how to make it happen. Some think it’s about getting more money -- that's wrong. Others think it’s about wearing the hippest clothes -- that's wrong. The most powerful attractor of women is how you are when you’re with them. Check out these 10 ways to become a more attractive guy.

No.10 - Learn how to tell an interesting story about anything

A key aspect to becoming a more attractive guy is being able to tell an interesting story about anything. Interesting stories are like operas and myths -- they have common patterns and a structure you can learn. One of the elements of an interesting story is a protagonist -- the good guy. This works especially well if you make him the underdog who comes back after getting knocked down. Some other elements are conflict, tension, tragedy, and humor. And there’s usually characters that are very different from one another, and who have unpredictable interactions that lead to situations you would have never thought of.

No.9 - Learn Cocky Comedy

One of the most powerful attraction-boosting talents you can develop is something I call Cocky Comedy. It’s about combining cockiness or arrogance with humor. It’s being sassy. It’s saying things that make her jaw drop and making her say “I can’t believe you just said that,” and then hitting you in a playful way. If you want some models of Cocky Comedy, watch James Bond, Clark Gable, Letterman, or Stern. These guys always have a wise-ass thing to say, and as you’re thinking “You’re a bastard for saying that,” you’re laughing. Remember: too much Cocky and you’ll come across as insecure. Too much Funny and you’ll come across as goofy.

No.8 - Make friends with attractive women by becoming a guy who women like being around

One of the best things you can do for your success with women and dating is to make friends -- just friends -- with several women who are like the women you’d like to date. Why? Because having these types of women as friends will teach you how to interact with women like them -- they’ll teach you everything you need to know. And best of all, they’ll bring the women to you.

No.7 - Tease in every way

What does teasing mean? Some people think it means “make fun of her in a mean way.” I don’t mean that. You want to tease psychologically, emotionally and physically, in a way that builds positive responses. If you tease a woman in a Cocky & Funny way, it starts some fun banter -- and that’s a good thing. If you tease a woman by putting your hand on top of hers and touch her hand gently, and she says “that’s nice,” then you take it away. Then every time she says she likes something you stop it -- you’re teasing her, it’s non predictable. When you do something then take it away, you build anticipation. The more you build anticipation with women, the more success you’ll have.

No.6 - Learn the entire mating process of humans in detail

We humans have a predictable set of steps that we go through in mating. From first contact to sex. It’s a predictable process. If you ask women what these steps are, they’ll tell you (you can actually learn a lot from this). If you ask men, they don’t know. Take the time to learn what all the steps are, and how to move from one step to the next, and you’ll have a lot more success than if you don’t

No.5 - Learn how to read situations before acting or communicating

Women have much more fine-tuned senses and perceptions when it comes to seeing social dynamics and what’s happening between people -- who’s in control, who likes who, who doesn’t have a chance in hell, etc. However, it’s a skill us guys can learn too. If you learn how to read situations and group dynamics, you’ll be able to create results that are nothing short of miraculous.

No.4 - Be honest, ethical and authentic with women - always

I know a guy who uses the idea of being “authentic” to an extreme, and he gets extreme results. He’ll be looking at a woman’s body, just enjoying it un-self-consciously then the woman will turn and ask him what he’s looking at, and he’ll casually say: “Wait, I’m not done yet.” Most guys act in a way that shows they’re ashamed about their desires. But when you act directly, it gives you great power. Extreme? Yes. Effective and fun? Double yes.

No.3 - Set a boundary as soon as possible

If a woman does something that’s unacceptable, set a boundary immediately. Let’s say you’re at a bar, and a woman you’re talking to says: “Hey, keep talking to me because there’s this guy I was talking to just to get a drink, but now he’s following me around.” Tell her that’s not cool, it’s not cool to use guys. Let her know you respect yourself as an individual and that you don’t’ accept behavior or people who are below your standards.

No.2 - Look past the "content" to see the true meaning of what's going on

As I’ve studied male and female interaction, I’ve realized something: Most of the words and gestures of communication are all distraction. What is one of the key skills an illusionist must learn to be effective? Artful distraction. They distract you so they can do something that will then appear to be magic. Most words and stories are just distraction. So when you’re interacting with a woman, always ask yourself: “What’s really going on here?” For example, if a woman shows up all dramatic, instead of getting yourself caught up in the content, step back and realize it’s just a reflection of her personality. Then decide if that kind of woman is a good fit for you or not.

No.1 - Engage her emotions and her body, not so much her mind

Approaching a woman on a logical plane to turn her on is a losing game. Trying to use logic to become an interesting and attractive guy just doesn’t work. It’s the old Russell Crowe sitting down at the bar in A Beautiful Mind and saying: “In essence, we’re just talking about fluid exchange, so let’s skip all the small talk and just hit it.” It doesn’t work that way. So how do you engage her emotions? You do things that are fun and adventurous. You tell stories that capture her heart and her mind. You learn how to touch a woman and what turns a woman on. Take the time to learn, and you’ll be rewarded with a lifetime of success with women.

A Documentary titled "after tsunami", refering to the political tsunami

2009-05-18T14:02:00.000+08:00

Selepas Tsunami (After the Tsunami) from Pusat KOMAS on Vimeo.

The 12th General Election did not only result in the change of government in four states or the lost of Barisan Nasional two-thirds majority in Parliament. It brought along many practices never seen before in the governmant system. In Selangor, a body under the state assembly was formed to monitor the use of public funds.

In the federal Parliament the increasing presence of opposition representatives has resulted in more serious debates. Today, UMNO and Barisan Nasional has started speaking the language of change. However, the real reform process is not as easy as voting on polling day.

This documentary discusses the meaning behind those promised changes. Info on KOMAS - komas.org

A Big Pictures production for Pusat KOMAS.
36 mins.
Director: Anna Har
Producer: Brenda Danker
Executive Producer: Jerald Joseph
Editor: Chi Too

Pilihan Raya umum ke-12 bukan setakat melibatkan perubahan empat kerajaan negeri atau kehilangan kuasa dua pertiga Barisan Nasional di Parlimen. Ia membawa kepada pelbagai amalan yang tidak wujud dan namkapasing sebelum inin dapat dirasakan oleh rakyat buat julung kalinya. Di negeri Selangor satu badan di bawah Dewan Negeri ditubuhkan untuk memantau perbelanjaan dana awam.

Di peringkat Persekutuan , Parlimen kini nampak lebih serius dengan kehadiran wakil pembangkang. Hari ini, Barisan Nasional yang keras kepala sebelum 8 Mac lalu, juga sudah mula bertutur dalam bahasa prubahan. Bagaimanapun, perubahan yang sebenar bukanlah semudah membuang undi pada pilihan raya.

Selepas Tsunami is also available in Mandarin, Tamil, and Iban language.
Please contact Pusat KOMAS +603-7968 5415 to purchase the DVDs. Email: info@komas.org.

Swine Flu ("ALERT") Please read and forward - http://www.jeiZone.co.nr

2009-05-03T09:03:00.004+08:00

Swine influenza virus (SIV) is caused by Orthomyxoviruses that are endemic to pig populations. SIV strains isolated to date have been classified either as Influenzavirus C or one of the various subtypes of the genus Influenzavirus A. Swine flu, unlike bird flu, is able to pass from human to human contact. The 2009 swine flu outbreak is the spread of a new strain of H1N1 influenza virus that was first detected by public health agencies in March 2009. Local outbreaks of influenza-like illness were detected in three areas of Mexico , but the presence of this new strain was not discovered for a month. Following this discovery in the parts of United States bordering Mexico , its presence was swiftly confirmed in the local outbreaks in Mexico , and in isolated cases elsewhere. By April 27, the new strain was confirmed also in Canada , Spain , and the United Kingdom and suspected in many other nations, with over 1,800 candidate cases. The new strain is an apparent reassortment of several strains of influenza A virus subtype H1N1, including a strain endemic in humans and two strains endemic in pigs, as well as an avian influenza. Reassortment is common in influenza viruses, due to the structure of their genome. This particular reassortment is consistent with a transmission of swine influenza from pig to human combined with the mixing of two viral infections in the sa me person. In April both the World Health Organization (WHO) and the United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) expressed serious concerns about this novel strain, because it apparently transmits from human to human, has had a relatively high mortality rate in Mexico, and because it has the potential to become a flu pandemic. On April 25, 2009, the WHO determined the situation to be a formal “public health emergency of international concern”, with knowledge lacking in regard to “the clinical features, epidemiology, and virology of reported cases and the appropriate responses”. Government health agencies around the world also expressed concerns over the outbreak and are monitoring the situation closely. Recommendations to prevent infection by the virus consist of the standard personal precautions against influenza. This includes frequent washing of hands with soap and water or with alcohol-based hand sa nitizers, especially after being out in public. People should avoid touching their mouth, nose or eyes with their hands unless they've washed their hands.. If people do cough, they should either cough into a tissue and throw it in the garbage immediately or, if they cough in their hand, they should wash their hands immediately. Many countries confirmed that inbound international passengers will be screened. Typical airport health screening involves asking passengers which countries they have visited and checking whether they feel or look particularly unwell. On April 27, the CDC recommended the use of Tamiflu and Relenza for both treatment and prevention of the new strain. Some physicians in the US are recommending the use of masks when in public. The purpose of a face mask is to effectively cover a person’s mouth and nose so that if a person is around someone who is infected, there is a decreased likelihood of transmission.

Talattu Pada (malaysian local tamil song)

2009-04-22T22:55:00.000+08:00

Directed by Shanjey & JK.Wicky,camera man Ganeson.Location Genting & KL.Song composed by Jay( music director of Uyirai tholaithen) singer sidharthan

KamalHassan (Cyberjaya)

2009-04-06T21:50:00.000+08:00

From the Moment

2009-03-19T11:43:00.000+08:00

From the moment I looked into your eyes,
I knew you were the one,

The one I would spend the rest of my life with,
until my time was done.

From the moment I looked into your eyes,
I knew you were my soul mate,

The soul mate I waited forever for,
but didn't believe in fate.

From the moment I looked into your eyes,
I knew my life was about to change,

The change I knew I needed,
but always felt my life was in a cage.

From the moment I looked into your eyes,
I knew I would be happy forever,

The happiness I have waited so long to have,
but didn't believed in happily ever after.

My number one

2009-03-18T11:51:00.001+08:00

All my life I have waited
Floating, dreaming, wishing
For the day when you would come my way
That day has come
My heart flutters at the sound of your voice
My hands shake as I reach to touch your face
In heaven there can only be a better place
Soaring through the clouds
The wind beating at my skin
Breathing heavy, feeling numb
You âre all I need, my number one

Tears stream down my face, burning my eyes
Happy tears, thankful smiles
Knowing I can hold you, embrace you
Fearless of the unknown, content with life
No longer will I feel the sharpened knife
Of hurt, pain and suffering

"Life Without You"

2009-03-18T11:44:00.000+08:00

Alone in hell, I have nowhere to turn
Memories of you, my love you spurn
Unseen forces brought us together
My heart is scarred, broken forever
In my dreams, I feel your touch
My heart is full, never so much
Time heals all wounds, this is a lie
My soul is lost, wanting to die
With broken pieces, I shall carry on
Crying forever with what's left undone

RUDERANZ

2009-03-10T14:53:00.000+08:00

1) How did the 5 of them start this album creation?

The idea of creating this album started from our own house. They started with creating a simple music beat using computer and wrote a lyric for that music beat. After tht boom! The idea of doing an album just pop out of no where. We started by approaching Mr Vassanth, who already in the industry for 14 years. We discuss among the group and paid the incial payment to a music director Mr Lawrence to come up with music beats for our album. Then it goes from there till we launch our 1st ever album after 3 years of hard work

2) What was the motivation / Influence for them to start this career?
The only motivation we have is,all of us have passion in music. We like to do something good out of our free time. Also we like to be on stage.

3) What were their challenges and obsticals before the ablum was successfully done?

The challenges are alot. Producing and launching an alobum is not a joke. The only advice we like to give to all the people out there who are intrested in producing an album is to be finicialy strong, because that is the most important thing to produce an album. 2nd challenge for us is time. All of us was working. Due to that we have to manage our time to be in the studio for recordings.

Aside to that, just to let you know the Street Launch will be at KK Vision Brickfield On Sat 13th March 2010 at 7pm.

To buy the CD or For more info kindly contact the Manager MR V.Remaraj at 0129106215.

STOP PIRACY BUY ORIGINAL.

Organ Donation Gift of Life - http://www.jeiZone.co.nr

2009-03-09T10:59:00.001+08:00

Hi Guys,

I'm sure you have heard of organ donation. Following are informations I gathered from Websites.

Once you read through this mail, I'm sure you too would plegde your organs.

We give but little when we

Give our possesions

It is when when we give ourselves

that we truly give.

Pls don't take your organs to heaven because GOD knows we need them here.

Pls pass the message to everyone.

GOD BLESS YOU!

ORGAN DONATIONS?

It is the gift of one body parts after death for the purpose of transplantation.
Transplantation is an operation which involves the replacement of diseased and defective organs & tissues with healthy ones from donors. This treatment helps save lives of people. Organ and tissue donation is the ultimate humanitarian act of charity.
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:: What are the organs & tissues that can be donated?
The commonly transplanted organs are kidneys, heart, liver, lungs and pancreas while the transplantable tissues are eyes, bone, skin and heart
valves. Thus a single donor can save the lives of a number of people.

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:: When are the organ & tissues removed?
Only when death been confirmed by two registered doctors.
The doctors involved with certification of death are not involved
in the transplant operation at all.

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:: Will my hospital treatment be affected if they know that i am a donor?
Absolutely not. The doctors will undertake every know measure to save your liferight till the end. Only when they are satisfied that you are dead will the question of organ & tissue donation be discussed with your relatives.

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:: Are there any religious objections?
No. All the major religions of the world-Islam, christianity, Buddhism,
Hinduism and Skihism endorse organ & tissue donation as the ultimate act of charity and benevolence.

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:: How are the organs removed?
The process of organ and tissue donation involves a sterile surgical
operation undertaken by a skilled team of surgeons. There is no mutilation or disfiguration of the body. The donor is treated with utmost respect
and dignity as tin any operation. Following removal of the organs and tissues, the surgical wound will be closed just as in any other operation.

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:: What if i change my mind later?
Organ donation is voluntary and if at any point you decide against donating
your organs and tissues, all you have to do is to inform your family about it an return your donor card.

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:: Wil the process of organ donation delay the funeral arrangements?
Not at all. Arrangements for funeral can be made as in any case of of
death. Following the removal of the organs and tissues, the body will be cleaned & draped and returned to the family within the shortest possible time. Removal of organ and tissues does not interfere with the customary
funeral or burial including open casket arrangements.

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:: How can i become a donor?
Simply complete this donor pledge form and the donor card. Forward the form to the National Transplant Resource Centre and keep the donor card in your wallet.
PLEASE INFORM YOUR FAMILY OF YOUR WISH TO BE AN ORGAN AND TISSUE DONOR AFTER YOUR DEATH.
This will relieve them of the difficult task of making a decision following your death.

NATIONAL TRANSPLANT RESOURCE CENTRES IN MALAYSIA
PUSAT SUMBER TRANSPLAN NASIONAL
(NATIONAL TRANSPLANT RESOURCE CENTRE)
HOSPITAL KUALA LUMPUR
JALAN PAHANG
50586 KUALA LUMPUR
TEL: 03-27191066, 03-26942704
03-26942705, 0326155555 EXT 7521
PUSAT SUMBER TRANSPLAN
(TRANSPLANT RESOURCE CENTRE)
HOSPITAL PULAU PINANG
JALAN RESIDENSI
10990 PULAU PINANG
TEL: 04-2293333 EXT 435
04-2002435
PUSAT SUMBER PENDERMAAN ORGAN
(ORGAN DONATION RESOURCE CENTRE)
HOSPITAL IPOH
JALAN HOSPITAL
30990 IPOH
TEL: 05-2533333 EXT 2324
05-5222324
PUSAT SUMBER TRANSPLAN NEGERI JOHOR
(NEGERI JOHOR TRANSPLANT RESOURCE CENTRE)
HOSPITAL SULTANAH AMINAH
80100 JOHOR BAHRU
TEL: 07-2231666 EXT 2751

Here are some common Q;

1) If a donor dies, how will u know?

2) If a donor dies & the family refuse to give the organs, will u still take organ by force?

3) What do i have to do,if i no longer wish to be a donor?

Below are the answers for the questions:

Normally we will ask the family members whether they are aware of your wish to be a donor and that is why we always advise the pledgers to let their family know of the wish. Remember the small card that you need to keep…..it is one of the identification that you had pledge your organ…..so, always keep it in your wallet.
If the family refused to give consent, we can’t proceed. So please inform your family of your wish before it’s too late
You just give a call to 1-800-88-9080 or 03-26942704 and tell the staff that you want to cancel you wish and they will take out your name from the list.
Feel free to mail me for more info on this : jei@hp.com or visit http://www.jeiZone.co.nr

You Determine your life - http://www.jeiZone.co.nr

2009-03-09T10:31:00.001+08:00

This is not to offence anyone, just for understanding.

Many of us spend alot of money every year hoping to have better future.

Why astrologists are not able solve or rectify all the problem when they can predict the future ?
Prediction does not means actual.
Why does bad things happen when they predict, but good things rarely happen, why ?
It's simple, because nobody bothers to focus on good things, all we are worried about is the
bad things which has been said.
As you always remind yourself about the bad things. Your mind starts
to develop what you think everyday and this will take shape and will actually happen.
What you think is what will happen, maybe not now but later it will sure happen.
Let me give you a simple example.
When you buy a car, the first thing you worry is to prevent the car from any accident,
meaning you are worried you will have accident and you will be extra careful,
bring to temple do all the prayers for the safety of your car,
but one fine day a joker will come and kiss your car.
Very simple the thoughts in your mind has taken shape.
So let me ask you does your mind has the power to determine your future.
If yes you are at the correct path, you determine your future, you determine your happiness,
you determine your health in short you determine your life.
Nothing else and nobody could determine your life.
So don't blame your luck, location, time, colour, DOB, name for your failure. It's you to be blamed.

Why Numerologist share the same fate as astrologists ?

Why fortune teller are not so fortunate to create a great deal of fortune for them ?

What is the best time for us ?

Is colour important to determine our luck ?

All this are only guide but the actual power to determine the future is within your mind & hands.

Your happiness remains in your own hands and nobody to be blamed if you are not happy.
Search for happiness within yourself, you will always have a happy ending.

You vs Astrologist vs Numerologistvs fortune teller and the winner is "You"

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2009-03-01T18:24:00.003+08:00

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VACANCY: 8000 jobs via Labor Dept's JobsMalaysia - http://www.jobsmalaysia.gov.my/jcs/index.faces

2009-03-01T15:32:00.000+08:00

Guys, the website is http://www.jobsmalaysia.gov.my/jcs/index.faces
Department to organise fairs to fill up 8,000 vacancies

PUTRAJAYA: There are 8,000 jobs available and the Labour Department will
organise job placement programmes every two weeks.

The programmes will be held in 15 locations nationwide.

Those retrenched and graduates who were unemployed for more than one year
would be given priority, said department director-general Datuk Ismail Abdul
Rahim.

He added that this was among the measures being taken to help those who have
lost their jobs due to the economic crunch, apart from providing assistance
to workers needing retraining before they could gain new employment.

“More assistance will be rendered from time to time,” Ismail told reporters
yesterday.

The job placement programme will kick off tomorrow in four locations – Shah
Alam, Johor Baru, Penang and Kota Kinabalu – involving 8,250 jobs offered by
66 employers.

Ismail said that between October and Feb 25, a total of 22,887 people had
lost their jobs, including 5,066 through voluntary separation schemes.

The department, through its JobsMalaysia programme, had helped 1,200 people
get re-employed.

The number of employers who laid off their workers during this period
totalled 654, mostly in the manufacturing sector.

Ismail said companies providing training would also join the job placement
fairs and offer the various courses available.

Each trainee would be given a monthly allowance between RM500 and RM800 for
up to six months.

I Am Someone

2009-02-17T02:57:00.001+08:00

I am someone
I walked past a dead face
even though the person was alive
I saw my eyes in the mirror
and cried at the sight
I looked at a person I didn't know
and I met a friend
I got heads to turn
when I walked past
I learned a lot about myself
when I lost a new friend
I cried every tear in my body
when I thought about love
I got hit bad
then got back in the ring
I climbed a mountain of rocks
and saw an eagle fly over- head
I heard terrible things about myself
when no one thought I was listening
I realized I was strong
when I didn't cry when it hurt
I found out who I was
when I was with someone else
I thought I was lost forever
when a friend found me
I held a life in my hand
and it was my own
I was a pawn in someone else's game
so I surrendered to a brook
I walked the fine line between surviving
and not wanting to survive
I still am
I am someone

If You Were Only True

2009-02-17T02:44:00.002+08:00

If You Were Only True

Since the first day I saw you,
I've never been the same.
My life's been so confusing,
and you're the one to blame . . .

I was in a relationship already;
I had been for awhile.
We were having so many problems,
so I never really smiled.

Then one day, when I was sad,
you cheered me up
and made me glad.
We fell in love,
and that was good;
but since I was taken,
I knew I never should -

I never should have loved you;
this shouldn't have happened to me.
You always made me happy,
and you opened my eyes to see.
I saw that my future was clear,
and oh so true;
so then I broke it off with him
to start a relationship with you.

You were always good to me,
until that dreadful day.
I can't believe I caught you with her,
and you had nothing to say.

You always said you'd be true to me,
and now I know you lied.
You lied to me and hurt me,
and so every night I cried.

I cried because you hurt me,
and soon it will happen to you;
you know this would have never happened,
If you were only true.

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2009-02-02T01:27:00.001+08:00

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Love On The Internet - http://www.jeiZone.co.nr

2009-01-25T19:55:00.001+08:00

Love On The Internet

Though I wasn't looking for anyone new,
One day I got e- mail and in it was you.
Charming, sensitive and so debonair,
I strongly resisted it go anywhere.

But letters and stories captured my heart,
Filled me with passion almost from the start.
Love on the Internet, how could it be?
These things just don't happen to people like me.

But doves and butterflies flew into our lives,
Carrying messages we could not deny.
Each person has meaning and love to express,
And we could deny our hearts nothing less.

It's a beautiful love that has grown between us,
Something beyond any words we discuss.
Much deeper than LOL, cyber kisses and such,
Far down to our souls, beyond human touch.

My love's not confined by what it can see,
I feel you, I taste you, I experience your dream.
Close my eyes, and I envision what in my heart I can hear,
"Love knows no boundaries, no distance, no fear."

It's the soul that captures God's love in a way
That eternally melts hearts together to stay.
Fused and sealed forever as one,
Love has its way and new life is begun.

Collecting used clothes - http://www.jeiZone.co.nr

2009-01-20T15:38:00.001+08:00

Dear all,

Our Wipeurtears Team are currently collecting used clothes for the Jinjang Ashram & Home in Taman Permata Melawati.

Those who are willing to contribute please drop us a mail with your name and
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You also can contribute minimum cash per person and it will be helpful for the children’s educations in the Home as well for their daily expenses.

They also looking for monthly sponsorship for grocery item included
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Please pass around this message to your friends & family members.

Your contribution means a lot to us. We appreciate for your kind help.

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Are You Feeling Suicidal

2009-01-12T12:33:00.000+08:00

Are You Feeling Suicidal...!!!???

My last cry for help went unanswered,
I took that as my sign for departure.
I signed my note in crimson ink,
My bloody Suicide Note.

Night after night I cried myself unconscious,
everyday I put on my smile.
I pretended everything was fine,
when it took all I had to smile.
So I signed my note in crimson ink,
My bloody Suicide Note.

I left you with a note from me;
it said how much I loved you,
how sorry I was it had to end this way,
how I couldn't stand my pain.
I signed those notes in crimson ink,
My bloody Suicide Notes.

Are you feeling suicidal. Have you ever had any suicidal thoughts in
the last few days . Are you feeling down or very depressed . Then
take this five minutes to read the following . I cannot say that I
understand your pain , neither can I promise you that everything will
be better after you read the following article . I am not a therapist
and I am not going to talk you out of your bad feelings .
I don't know who you are, or why you are reading this page. I only
know that for the moment, you're reading it, and that is good. I can
assume that you are here because you are troubled and considering
ending your life. If it were possible, I would prefer to be there
with you at this moment, to sit with you and talk, face to face and
heart to heart. But since that is not possible, we will have to make
do with this.
I have known a lot of people who have wanted to kill themselves, so I
have some small idea of what you might be feeling. I know that you
might not be up to reading a long book, so I am going to keep this
short. While we are together here for the next five minutes, I have
five simple, practical things I would like to share with you. I won't
argue with you about whether you should kill yourself. But I assume
that if you are thinking about it, you feel pretty bad.
Well, you're still reading, and that's very good. I'd like to ask you
to stay with me for the rest of this page. I hope it means that
you're at least a tiny bit unsure, somewhere deep inside, about
whether or not you really will end your life. Often people feel that,
even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being unsure about dying is
okay and normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute
means you are still a little bit unsure. It means that even while you
want to die, at the same time some part of you still wants to live.
So let's hang on to that, and keep going for a few more minutes.

"Suicide is not chosen; it happens
when pain exceeds
resources for coping with pain."

That's all it's about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak,
or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn't even mean that you
really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you
can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders,
you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how
much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with
it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.
Don't accept it if someone tells you, "that's not enough to be
suicidal about." There are many kinds of pain that may lead to
suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person
to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be
bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable
depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary
greatly in their capacity to withstand pain.
When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the
result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of
character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain
versus coping resources.
You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things:
(1) find a way to reduce your pain, or
(2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.

Now I want to tell you five things to think about.

You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who
feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very
good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information
gives you some sense of hope.

Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, "I will wait 24 hours
before I do anything." Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions
are two different things - just because you feel like killing
yourself, doesn't mean that you have to actually do it right this
minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal
action. Even if it's just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5
minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5
minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that
while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on
it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.
People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from
pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to
feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you
are dead.

Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either
because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase
your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying
or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad
reactions are about their fears, not about you.
• But there are people out there who can be with you in this
horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you
to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They
will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours,
or
But don't give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with
this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases
an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional
coping resource you need to regain your balance.

Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they
subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a
really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both
in your community and on the Internet.

Well, it's been a few minutes and you're still with me. I'm really
glad.
Since you have made it this far, you deserve a reward. I think you
should reward yourself by giving yourself a gift. The gift you will
give yourself is a coping resource. Remember, back up near the top of
the page, I said that the idea is to make sure you have more coping
resources than you have pain. So let's give you another coping
resource, or two, or ten...! until they outnumber your sources of
pain.

Now, while this page may have given you some small relief, the best
coping resource we can give you is another human being to talk with.
If you find someone who wants to listen, and tell them how you are
feeling and how you got to this point, you will have increased your
coping resources by one. Hopefully the first person you choose won't
be the last. There are a lot of people out there who really want to
hear from you. It's time to start looking around for one of them.

Is Suicide a complex behaviour?

2009-01-11T17:42:00.001+08:00

Is Suicide a complex behaviour?

Suicide

Suicide is a complex behaviour. Many medical, psychological and
social factors such as depression, substance abuse, personal crisis,
and the availability of firearms or a lethal supply of drugs can put
a person at risk of suicide. Response to these risk factors varies
dramatically from person to person. It is impossible to predict with
certainty who will kill themselves, or attempt to do so.
A suicide attempt is a clear indication that something is gravely
wrong in a person's life. Irrespective of the race or age of the
person; or how rich or poor they are, most people who commit suicide
have a mental or emotional disorder. The most common underlying
disorder is depression, 30% to 70% of suicide victims suffer from
major depression or bipolar (manic-depressive) disorder. Alcoholism
and other drug abuse increase the risk of suicide.
Any one of these symptoms does not necessarily mean the person is
suicidal, but several of these symptoms may signal a need for help:

Verbal suicide threats
Expressions of hopelessness and helplessness
Previous suicide attempts
Daring or risk-taking behavior
Personality change
Depression
Giving away prized possession
Lack of interest in future plans

Eight out of ten suicidal persons give some sign of their intentions.
People who talk about suicide, threaten to commit suicide, or call
suicide crisis centers are 30 times more likely than average to kill
themselves.

If someone is suicidal:

Trust one's instincts that the person may be in trouble

Talk with the person about his concerns. Communication needs to
include listening.

Ask direct questions without being judgmental. Determine if the
person has a specific plan no carry out the suicide. The more
detailed the plan, the greater the risk

Get professional help, even if the person resists

Do not leave the person alone

Do not swear to secrecy

Do not act shocked or judgmental

Do not counsel the person oneself

No single therapeutic approach is suitable for all suicidal persons
or suicidal tendencies. The most common ways to treat underlying
illnesses associated with suicide are with medication, talk therapy
or a combination of the two.

Cognitive (talk therapy) and behavioral (changing behavior) therapies
aim at relieving the despair of suicidal patients by showing them
other solutions to their problems and new ways to think about
themselves and their world. Behavioral methods, such as training in
assertiveness, problem-solving, social skills, and muscle relaxation,
may reduce depression, anxiety, and social ineptitude.
Cognitive and behavioral homework assignments are planned in
collaboration with the patient and explained as experiments that will
be educational even if they fail. The therapist emphasizes that the
patient is doing most of the work, because it is especially important
for a suicidal person not to see the therapist as necessary for their
survival.

Recent research strongly supports the use of medication to treat the
underlying depression associated with suicide. Antidepressant
medication act on chemical pathways of the brain related to mood.
There are many very effective antidepressants. The two most common
types are selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) and
tricyclic antidepressants (TCAs). Other new types of antidepressants
(e.g. alpha-2 antagonist, selective norepinephrine reuptake
inhibitors (SNRIs) and aminoketones) , and an older class, monoamine
oxidase inhibitors (MAOIs) are also prescribed by some doctors.
Antidepressant medications are not habit-forming. Although some
symptoms such as insomnia, often improve within a week or two, it may
take three or four weeks before one feels better; the full benefit of
medication may require six to eight weeks of treatment. Sometimes
changes need to be made in the dosage or medication type before
improvements are noticed. It is usually recommended that medications
be taken for at least four to nine months after the depressive
symptoms have improved. People with chronic depression may need to
stay on medication to prevent or lessen further episodes.

People taking antidepressants should be monitored by a doctor who
knows about treating clinical depression to ensure the best treatment
with the fewest side effects. It is also very important that the
doctor be informed about all other medicines that are taken,
including vitamins and herbal supplements, in order to help avoid
dangerous interactions. Alcohol or other drugs can interact
negatively with antidepressant medication. One should not discontinue
medication without discussing the decision with the doctor.

Suicide survivors: those left behind

When an individual commits suicide or tries to, that person's family
and close friends often are devastated and experience intense and
persistent pain. Suicide survivors may suffer through repeated
nightmares and flashbacks of the suicide scene, and they may avoid
people and places that remind them of the suicide. Some survivors
lose interest in activities they once enjoyed and grow emotionally
numb feeling incapable of caring. Beyond bereavement, suicide
survivors may themselves become depressed or develop another mental
illness due to severe stress.

It is fairly common for suicide survivors to develop a mental
illness, especially depression. Counseling or psychotherapy can help
one cope with the crisis. Support groups made up of other suicide
survivors also can help one find one's way through the maze of
emotions and physical changes one may be experiencing. Counseling or
support groups led by trained professionals are especially important
if one does not one have adequate support from family and friends.
Many suicide survivors refuse to seek help because they think it is a
sign of weakness. But it is just the opposite. Seeking help when one
needs it is a sign of strength.

Are you one of those who constantly thinking of suicide .

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2009-01-07T21:50:00.001+08:00

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December 21 2012 the END?

2009-01-04T20:50:00.003+08:00

What Would U Do...

2009-01-04T04:04:00.000+08:00

LOVE

2009-01-04T04:01:00.000+08:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2009 - http://www.jeiZone.co.nr

2008-12-30T19:53:00.002+08:00

HAPPY NEW YEAR 2009 AND HAPPY HOLIDAYS.

New is the year, new are the hopes and the aspirations,
New is the resolution, new are the spirits and
Forever my warm wishes are for u.
Have a promising and fulfilling new year.

Wishing you a fabulous 2008
with full of great achievements and experiences.
A meaningful chapter waiting
to be written HAPPY NEW YEAR!

My wishes for you in year 2009
Great start for Jan,
Love for Feb,
Peace for march,
No worries for April
Fun for May,
Joy for June to Nov,
Happiness for Dec,
Have a lucky and wonderful 2009.

I wish U to have a …..
Sweetest Sunday,
Marvelous Monday,
Tasty Tuesday,
Wonderful Wednesday,
Thankful Thursday,
Friendly Friday,
Successful Saturday.
Have a great Year.
HAPPY NEW YEAR

Oh my Dear, Forget ur Fear,
Let all ur Dreams be Clear,
Never put Tear, Please Hear,
I want to tell one thing in ur Ear
Wishing u a very “Happy NEW YEAR“!

Before the golden sun sets,
2008’s calender is destroyed,
And mobile networks get jammed,
I wish in 2009 every moment is enjoyed

Year’s end is neither an end
nor a beginning
but a going on,
with all the wisdom
that experience
can instill in us.
Happy New Year

With all the Rose’s Perfume
& with all the lights in the world
& with all the children Smiles…
I Wish U that your all dreams comes True..
*HAPPY NEW YEAR 2009*

Nights are Dark but Days are Light,
Wish your Life will always be Bright.
So my Dear don’t get Fear
Coz, God Gift us a “BRAND NEW YEAR”.
*HAPPY NEW YEAR*

My Wishes in 2oo9
God gives You…
12 Month of Happiness,
52 Weeks of Fun,
365 Days Success,
8760 Hours Good Health,
52600 Minutes Good Luck,
3153600 Seconds of Joy…and that’s all! ”

Yesterday...

2008-12-29T19:42:00.000+08:00

Yesterday...

I thought about you yesterday
And tears ran down my face
As I remembered all the memories
That can never be erased

Though it was two years ago
Every now and then
Something makes me think of you
And of what might have been

I remember all the good times
The laughter and the tears
Memories that warm my heart
When I look back on those happy years

But every time I remember
My heart begins to ache
Those special times weren't real for you
Your smile was just a fake

You thought that no one loved you
Your heart was breaking inside
Your soul was crying tears
That you tried so desperately to hide

Give Me Your Hand

2008-12-29T19:40:00.000+08:00

Give Me Your Hand

Give me your deepest morning hug
When the sun shines on our bed
Give me the strength of your love
All the words that you never said

Give me back my fantasy dreams with you
Touch me with the same soft caress of yours
Give me every moment that I shared with you
When all glumness flew off in a single whew

Give me those addictive warm smiles
the crescent of your shining rosy lips
Give me that tender look of sparkle eyes
Your moon face that drabbed the blue skies

Give me all those precious memories
fire of love that my heart always lights
Give me back the golden days of pure love

GURU PEYARCHI 2008

2008-12-11T03:56:00.002+08:00

The actual time and date of Guru Peyarchi varies from Panjangam to Panjangam.

Suddha Vaakiya Panjangam presents Guru Peyarchi on 06-12-2008 by about 10-55 AM.

In other Panjangams it is on 24th December 2008 and so on. Let us not break our head with the small difference in date and time.
Let us see what Lord Guru Baghwan has in store for us in the coming year.

Brief Predictions are published for all the 12 Raasis.

• Mesha Raasi
• Rishabha Raasi
• Midhuna Raasi
• Kataga Raasi
• Simha Raasi
• Kanni Raasi
• Thula Raasi
• Vrichiga Raasi
• Dhanur Raasi
• Makara Raasi
• Kumba Raasi
• Meena Raasi

Thinking Of You

2008-11-30T12:09:00.001+08:00

Thinking Of You

I sit here quietly and watch the sun set
Thinking of someone that I've never met
I wonder does she think of me too
Needless to say I am thinking of you

Wanting to hold you, to see your face
To take you away to a better place
You feel so right, too good to be true
I just can't stop thinking of you

My friends say that I might regret
Losing my heart to a girl I've not met
I say there is nothing I can do
I cannot help thinking of you

I believe you were made special for me
But wonder if that could possibly be
I'm tired of being so alone and blue
But I always smile when thinking of you

To Spend forever

2008-11-30T11:56:00.001+08:00

To Spend forever

I give you my heart, mind, body, & soul
I give you my love, for you to make me whole
I give you this promise, the promise to try
I give you each breath & the tears i cry
I give you my past, my future & NOW
I give you my thoughts & my hopes in this Vow
I give you my voice & the music i sing
I give you forever by accepting this ring
I give you my world all the pain & strike
I give you my hand & learn to share life
I give you this kiss & there words i say
"I'll Cherish you always as of this day"
I give you my faith that these words are true from now until the end i promise to you

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